she has to rock her to sleep in her arms
she says very few words and mainly makes nasal noises when 'talking' and will stand/sit in a world of her own looking really vacant.
she also becomes inconsolable when she cant have something, or someone wont do what she wants.
am quite concerned about her and wondered if this was 'normal' and just seems worse because my dd has a 3 month advantage on her or does this sound like the start of something??
please accept my apology for my ignorance about this, i just thought someone here would be able to give me some advice??
Rocking her to sleep. She is still only little so that wouldn't be a concern IMO
She has very few words. Well again the average amount a 2 year old should have is 6. It is the understanding that is more important. Things such as where are your shoes, get your coat etc. Also non-language communication such as pointing (very important for a child this age) and general sharing knowledge. Showing things of interest, that type of thing.
Becomes inconsolable when she can't get/do what she wants. My children weren't like this but many children do go through the terrible 2's and tantrums at this age are very common.
The things I would be concerned are:-
nasal speech - could be sign of a hearing/speech or language problem
Standing still/looking vacant - is also a worry although could be down to many things.
I would hope it would get picked up at the next check. Does your friend share your concerns?
I would say def. get a hearing test done to rule out something like glue ear as that could be linked to nasal speech.
looking past you, doesnt really look at you?
was stood in front of dp last weekend with her finger pointing to her other hand and stood there for about 3 mins, just vacantly staring at her hand,he picked her up and she stayed like that for 10 mins or so?then a tear rolled down her cheek, but nothing?no crying, talking, moving???
I would be concerned about the vacant episodes in that they could indeed be petit mal absences (epilepsy). My DS suffered from absence seizures from the age of around 3 months and it wasn't diagnosed until he was 9 months because they can be hard to spot. He was on medication for a year, though he has now grown out of it.
Uncontrolled fits are one of the biggest caused of learning disability and though I wouldn't wish to alarm your friend, it is definitely worth getting checked out. With absences they don't fall over, collapse or appear in any way unconscious, it is just characterised by blank staring, and with my DS this was happening several times a day. We mistook it at first for daydreaming. With absences for some reason they often turn their head to the right. Also, DS slept more than most babies as the absences can make them very tired.
Absences are very common in babies and toddlers, can be 1 in 100, but they often grow out of it. An EEG will give her the answer.
Evesmama, I asked a related question a couple of weeks ago, title 'what is an absence?' - sorry, bit of a dunce about inserting links here . I also saw GP at the time about it - my ds, age 3, had a one-off incident at nursery that could have been an absence/petit mal seizure. GP said it is very unlikely to be an absence if you can get child's attention during vacant episode.
If you shouted this little girl's name, or waved your hand in front of her face, do you think she would react?
no, she didnt react as we were asking her if she was okay?dp even picked her up and put her on his knee and she didnt flinch??
thing is i dont even know wether she thinks something is wrong as hasnt mentioned it but she does it everytime we see her?
also she lays on the floor and pulls her legs and arms upwards and will stay like that for minutes on end..this might sound daft?? but she also going into a stare when she does this too and cannot be 'snapped' out of it???