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Please all have your fingers crossed.....I need every bit of hope right now.

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Jaysmum Mon 21-Mar-05 01:25:53

The LEA officer and Education Welfare Officer are coming out to see me at home at 10.15am.....please keep your fingers crossed for me and my wee man.

The LEA have finally agreed to put into place some home tuition.....only 5 hours a week = 3 1hour 40mins sessions a week.

They are coming to discuss J's integration back into school life and to discuss his placement at the special school.

The teacher at the specail school has spoken with the EWO because I expressed my concerns that J is becoming far to dependent upon me......he will not let me out of his site....even to go for a pee!!!!

When J is at the school on Friday afternoons he asks constantly when he can go home.He has become obsessed with time and is checking clocks all day, especially if I am not around.

The LEA are now looking at J integrating back into school life after the Easter holidays.....so long as he isnt too upset when they come to see us tomorrow.

Im just hoping and praying that when they arrive at the house J doesnt have a meltdown.The last time the EWO came to the house J was being a dog all day....so she didnt take kindly to him yapping at her heels and trying to bite her!!! I did explain that we had just had the new puppy and he was copying the pups behavior.....although the pup was a sleep for the whole duration of her visit!!!! I dont think she beleived me!!!!

The LEA are worried that J's behavior may upset the other children in the class he is going into to.....he hasnt yet upset anyone there and on Friday it was so lovely to hear the other children calling out his name when he entered the class.....he has made friends with another boy and the little chap shouted out "Im so happy J is here today"....I nearly cried because its the first time I have heard another child say he is happy to see my son.In his mainstream school the kids all avoided him like the plague because J can be so unpredictable.
So think of me at 10.15am.....I might just be prising J from the leg of the LEA officer.....or smiling from ear to ear because J is being a poppet and the LEA are finally giving him the chance he deserves.

JMxxxx

KarenThirl Mon 21-Mar-05 06:49:35

Sending you loads of luck and positive vibes, JM. Sounds as though J is doing really well when he's at school, especially with social relationships. Surely they'll take that into consideration - after all, his behaviour when he's in school is far more relevant than what he's like at home, I'd have thought. Will they have reports from school to refer to, or will you have to remind them of how well he's doing?

Hope it goes well for you both. Be thinking of you.

Blossomhill Mon 21-Mar-05 07:35:50

Thinking of you loads tomorrow. Really, really hope it all goes well and you get the help you want, need and deserve. Blossxxx

pindy Mon 21-Mar-05 07:41:11

Thinking of you - good luck

InternationalGirl Mon 21-Mar-05 08:06:08

Hope it all goes well for you and J. Will be thinking of you.

heartinthecountry Mon 21-Mar-05 08:34:01

Fingers crossed for you Jaysmum - really hope it all works out for you and J.

Saker Mon 21-Mar-05 09:34:43

Good luck, hope it works out.

MandM Mon 21-Mar-05 10:02:17

Good luck JaysMum (and J!) - I'll be sat here at work thinking of you at 10.15. x

Cristina7 Mon 21-Mar-05 10:10:30

Good luck. You must be so anxious just now. I hope it goes well.

irishbird Mon 21-Mar-05 10:12:17

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maddiemo Mon 21-Mar-05 10:18:47

Thinking of you right now

piffle Mon 21-Mar-05 10:53:17

Fingers legs everything crossed for you
xxxxxxxxxxxx

Marina Mon 21-Mar-05 10:54:00

Good luck right now Jaysmum, hope it is all going well.

ThomCat Mon 21-Mar-05 12:19:25

good luck Jaysmum.
TC x

Jaysmum Mon 21-Mar-05 12:50:19

Well I can safely say your good luck vibes worked!!!!!! Thank you all so very muchxxxxx

J went into a major meltdown 15 minutes before they arrived!!!!

Finally got him settled and they chatted with him breifly about what he likes about school.....comptutas and sticky....he dragged out his typey writey lap top ( old typewriter) and bashed away at the keys for 5 minutes whilst they tried to talk some more with him but he was having non of it and totally ignored them!!!!

The EWO asked me if anyone had ever suggested Aspergers to us!!!! WTF??????The LEA Officer just smiled because she knows only too well the struggles we have had to get any of the local professionals to recognise J's AS.

The special school Head Teacher has reported to the LEA that they feel J is to HF for the special school, however he has not had a formal assessment yet of his learning difficulties and the class teacher feels strongly that the placement at the special school will be the best place to help J over come his learning problems BUT she feels socially J would need to have some interaction within a mainstream school and would need some very strong supportive 1:1. So LEA are proposing that J will spend two afternoons a week in a mainstream school of our choice and this will be to take part in Art or PE lessons.....I expressed my concerns that J will feel as if he doesnt fit in because he will not be forming any lasting relationships with children he will only meet up with for a couple of hours a week.....LEA suggesting he goes back to his old mainstream for these sessions....NO WAY....the Head from Hell is back!!!!

So that option has been left for me to think over.

Then the LEA informed me that the Link Education will start after Easter. 5 hours a week at home....they first suggested J being taken into the town centre by taxi alone and given his education on a 1:1 basis in the youth centre.
This would have been OK if 1. J would get into a car with a stranger and 2. the centre was a secure place. It is not!!! The thought that J could do a runner any minute out of the building and be lost in the town centre was just not a viable option....all agreed with me.

So starting from after Easter J has got a teacher who will come to the house 3 mornings a week and has excellent experience with working with AS children. She is very musical and when the EWO saw J's set of full sized drums and electric guitar she said she felt they would get on well with one another....I might invest in some ear plugs!!!!

The way forward has been discussed......and at the moment the LEA are proposing to increase the sessions at the special school to a full day on Fridays and one extra afternoon. The EWO is now going to go away and try and find a suitable placement for J to interact socailly within a mainstream environment that also has a LSA with good knowledge of ASD.

So thank you again for your good luck vibes.....things are looking a lot more positive than they did last week.

pindy Mon 21-Mar-05 13:00:03

This all seems really good news - at last they are doing something. Hope you now feel a bit better.

Good luck

Socci Mon 21-Mar-05 13:13:58

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heartinthecountry Mon 21-Mar-05 13:24:09

Sounds really positive Jaysmum - hope it all goes to plan and works out.

late Mon 21-Mar-05 13:26:59

only just seen your posting and was about to add that my fingers will be crossed for you both only to find all went well! Glad for you both.

MandM Mon 21-Mar-05 13:36:12

Good news Jaysmum. Hope that this is the start of something really positive for all of you - certainly sounds like it. x

Dingle Mon 21-Mar-05 13:43:05

Well done, great news for you both!

KarenThirl Mon 21-Mar-05 14:27:31

Excellent news, really pleased for you both. Hope it all goes to plan.

anniebear Mon 21-Mar-05 17:30:32

All sounds really good

Very pleased for youxxxxxx

coppertop Mon 21-Mar-05 17:38:45

Only just seen this thread. 'm glad it went well, JM.

beccaboo Tue 22-Mar-05 09:45:47

Jaysmum, at last! This sounds really good, hope it will be just what J needs .

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