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whats the funniest/stupidest thing a Doctor has said to you RE your child?????

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anniebear Tue 15-Mar-05 19:49:15

I was thinking today about one of Ellies eye appointments we had last year. Still find it unbelievable.

Just thought, between all of us we must have some funny/unbeliveable things that have been said to us by the 'professionals'!!

Anyway, the Dr needed to look into the back of Ellie's eye and poked and prodded, tried to prise open Ellies eyes (she was 2 and a half) and tried to shine a bright light into it.

Ellie ended up with a very red sore eye. The Dr had to go and get the Consultant who was very nice but when she couldn't get a look told me "you will have to blackmail her"

LOL LOL LOL I still find it so funny now. I just turned to her and said slowly "she has special needs and is very behind with her development" (she knew this already)

Then I went on to tell her that at only 2 and a half I couldn't even blackmail her twin NT Sister.

She just said we all have to use black mail with our children even if we don't want to. and to go home and get her used to her eye being touched!!!

So did I go home and prise Ellies eye open and Shine a bright torch in, oh and black mail her? I don't think so!!!!

How stupid, blackmail a child who was only 2, has special needs, and hardly had any understanding!!!

JaysMum Tue 15-Mar-05 20:04:01

Quote from J's Paed......

"Sorry I know nothing about ASD....its a shame he hasnt got CP....I know at lot about CP and would be able to help you"

Quote from school nurse...
"is it because he's adopted that he is like he is"

Quote from school doctor....
"J can not possibly have Aspergers....all children with aspergers walk around all day licking the windows and floors they come in contact with"

Quote from EX Head Teacher...."can't you try and make him be like the rest of the children in his class"

macwoozy Tue 15-Mar-05 20:10:44

I've not had comments like that....yet....but I don't know if I'd want to laugh or cry at these people 'cos they sound so ridiculous.

Socci Tue 15-Mar-05 20:16:20

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Chandra Tue 15-Mar-05 20:29:34

I won't enter in details about DS's reactions to vaccines that were disregarded as teething even when he spent a full week with 39+ constant fever.

But reading about your comments one my mother told me has come to my mind:

My younger sister was diagnosed with tuberculosis at 2 yrs old. The doctor told my mother:
Paediatrician: She doesn't play and is normally very quiet.
My mum: No she plays a lot and is not quiet at all
Paed: She has been in non healthy environment.
M: No, she lives in a normal house with all the comodities she can have, the house is clean, the food is healthy and the house is warm in winter and cool in summer.
Paed: She has been in contact with somebody with TB
My mum: Impossible
PAed: You are lieing!

It turned out that my sister had been so many times to the hospital for an allergic bronquitis and at that time all children ingressed in hospital were rutinely tested for TB, she had got the test so many times that the last one came back as a positive. Another specialist was quick to realise about the origin of the problem but the original paed just choose to accuse my mother of lieing when her DD didn't fit into his diagnose.

piffle Tue 15-Mar-05 20:37:04

"Does she recognise you as her mother?"
DD in A&E for recurring vomiting at 25 mths.
DD has Noonan Syndrome and we were in small town hospital, who treated her like a 3 ring gawping circus, all these juniour doctors came in and were asking bizarre questions
Not one to do with her BLoody VOMITING bug.
What made it more amusing was that dd was cuddled up in my arms, half asleep, sucking her thumb and curling my hair around her other hand
No what did I look like ???
Yes that's it
her mother
There are some unreal stories here crikey, who would have thought peple could be so spectacularly ignorant and thoughtless

pixiefish Tue 15-Mar-05 21:00:48

Absolutely unbelievable. How can so called professionals be so stupid?

Potty1 Tue 15-Mar-05 21:03:39

That dd had colic and I was a tired/overanxious mother.............36 hours later she had had her second heart attack and was in critical heart and respiratory failure.

Tired, yes, overanxious? I think not!

Blossomhill Tue 15-Mar-05 21:06:41

In A&E when dd was 2. The SHO came in to tell me that dd had a small fracture in her wrist. He then went on to say that he was concerned about her development, that she wasn't right. When I asked him what he meant he said "It's called autism, sorry but someone had to tell you!!!!!"
He said that the nurses had been observing dd and were worried about her. Now if the stupid idiot had looked in her notes he would have seen that she was being assessed!!!! He said he thought so because of poor eye contact. I believed what he said was true and went home tears streaming down my face. I rang the HV and I told her what had happened believening him because a doctor. I couldn't believe her response, she was absolutely furious. We saw the paed for an emergency appointment to have a thorough asd assessment and it came out as negative, more language based.
So that's probably what started my fear of asd, so thanks Mr SHO!!!!!

Blossomhill Tue 15-Mar-05 21:07:38

Piffle - how insulting I cannot believe this stuff I am reading but in a way I absolutely!!!!

Podmog Tue 15-Mar-05 21:10:17

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lou33 Tue 15-Mar-05 21:11:04

was told that dd1 would probably be blind and deaf when she was a baby, she already had hydrocephalus and 2 heart defects along with gdd. Was told to not bother with her as she would probably be a vegetable.

My sister was told to put her newborn first child in a hime and forget she ever had him. Reason? He has Downs Syndrome.

piffle Tue 15-Mar-05 21:11:49

in retort (due to my anger and stress)
I replied
"a damn sight better than I see you as a doctor..."
sigh

piffle Tue 15-Mar-05 21:12:56

potty!!!!!!!!!!!!
aghast with this thread truly truly aghast

Cod Tue 15-Mar-05 21:14:53

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eidsvold Tue 15-Mar-05 21:28:24

I am gobsmacked at these.... how did you restrain from letting them have it.

I get annoyed at the no. of medical staff who ask if we knew dd1 had downs syndrome before she was born. It is funny then to see them shut up when we say yes - as they really don't know what to say.

IT also hacked me off when I was pregnant with dd2. Most medical professionals I dealt with assumed as I had a child with ds and a heart defect already and my risk was increased - I would automatically want every test going. Even more strongly suggested when they found a soft marker for ds in dd2. They genuinely seemed shocked when I said no. The only two people who did not try to push me for further or any tests - was my GP ( brilliant lady) and the genetic counsellor that spoke to us after the 20 week scan.

edam Tue 15-Mar-05 21:29:18

On a much lighter note, comment on first meeting my HV took me aback: 'He's not got much of you in him, has he?'. Well durr, 50 per cent of his genes!
HV turned out to be an absolute star though.

Stunned at some of the posts. Amazing how cruel and stupid some people, who should know better, can be.

sparklymieow Tue 15-Mar-05 21:31:39

one GP when meeting DS for the first time and for about 4 mins. "oh well, he only has mild CP, he will be fine" I said "Actually he has moderate CP and he can't walk far and is very hard work"

Another lady with a son with CP "oh he (DS) can't possibly have CP, he can walk!!"

whatsername Tue 15-Mar-05 21:44:17

Not quite the same as these but I went to see the GP when about 8 months pregnant (not my normal GP) and he prescribed me antibiotics. It was only as I got up to leave the room with the prescription that he thought to say 'you're not pregnant or anything are you?'

Well apart from the fact that I have a big bump and you have my notes sat in front of you...

I'm sure I have had more...will probably return later...

Gwenick Tue 15-Mar-05 21:53:02

Not a SN one - but at 3 weeks old DS1 developed tonsalitis and completely lost his voice (sounds nice - but was horrible as all my postnatal friends were 'learning' their babies cries mine just 'whispered' ).

Anyhow, got to the Dr.s and he says "is he sleeping though"

me: "errrr no"

Him: "oh that's not good then"

me: "well he is only 3 weeks old"

Him: "obviosuly not well if he's not sleeping" !!!!!


I went RIGHT off that dr. for a long time - but then was 'forced' to see him as needed an emergency appointment (again for DS1) and he was the only one available - think he must have been having a bad day when I first saw him as he was fine everyother time.............but FFS - a 3 week old baby not sleeping through - oh dear!"

tortoiseshell Tue 15-Mar-05 21:53:54

Best one I ever heard wasn't to me, but to a friend - she took dd to HV, and commented on white marks behind her ear (first child, v. conscientious!) - HV said 'Oh ,that's thrush, rub some natural yoghurt behind her ear to help it clear up'. In bath, white spots come off - they were dried MILK!!!!! I'd like to see someone rubbing yoghurt behind a baby's ears!

coppertop Tue 15-Mar-05 22:31:14

I think I ranted on here about it at the time but this one happened when ds1 was about 3. He had a temperature, was breathing quite fast and was obviously feeling very unwell. As it was the weekend I had to take him to our local NHS Walk-In Centre.

In the waiting room ds1 crawled under my chair and stayed there. The doctor came out, tutted at us and called us in. In the GP's office (not our usual doctor) I explained ds1's symptoms, told him that ds1 was autistic and didn't feel much pain, and explained that the only clue we had that he was ill was when his temperature shot up.

Doctor: Autistic? He looks okay to me.

(moves on to examine ds1's ears and throat before listening to his chest)

Doctor: His ears and throat are very red. He must be in a lot of pain.

Me: He doesn't feel much pain - and even when he does he doesn't let us know.

Doctor: You really should have brought him in sooner.

I left the room wondering if I'd just spent the last few minutes speaking to myself........

Evesmama Tue 15-Mar-05 22:33:49

my 'doctor'(not regular doc)

yes its definatly fine to give you dd calpol and medised...yes, im positive"!!!!!!!!!!!!

whatsername Tue 15-Mar-05 22:44:41

Sorry, hadn't realised this was a SN thread

Most of what the dr we have been seeing about ds could go on here. She seems to think that after a15 minute consultation in an unfamiliar environment she has a more accurate representation of his problems than my experience being with him 24/7. I mean, an unfamiliar environment isn't the best situation for a sensible assessment of any child but with an AS child...one of his biggest problems is his inability to cope with unfamiliar situations FFS.

Merlot Tue 15-Mar-05 22:51:53

This was my little gem that sent me over the edge before xmas! Remember it was you lovely lot on MN that picked up the pieces after this one:

"Can't believe the conversation I have just had with my GP. He is relatively new to the practice and I have heard that his bed side manner is not good BUT really!... I had to take ds2 to see him re poss ear infection; whilst I was there I felt I ought to mention that we were being seen re-some general concerns about ds2's development, just in case he thought ds2's passiveness was some kind of side effect of his illness. GP scanned through computer notes and said `see what you mean' then said `it must be worrying' (too b**y right!) `but I remember some friends of ours having a baby when we had ours and they kept saying how good she was and how placid and I thought Oh Dear' then he went on to tell me that it all turned out ok because even though (to quote) `she is as thick as two short planks and as fat as a house, she did find someone to hook up with and therefore has got some quality of life' I was stunned at that point and reminded the GP that I just needed my ds2's ears looking at! Despite that he continued with `so he (wagging a finger at ds2)might not be the brightest out the pack, but he might have a reasonable life' Oh s**t I feel like crying! I was bad enough before I went to see him! Incidentally DS2 has raging ear infection and we could have done with getting out the surgery a lot quicker and without the sermon!"


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