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Glitteryboy goes for his button & Fundo op on Wed and now i have the OW thrust on me too!!!

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glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 11:30:29

Think im having a panic attack, ds has his op on Wednesday, ive been absolutely fine about it but am now in a major panic! Dont know if its the thought of the op or a week in hospital on my own (single parent) trying to entertain him cos he cant do anything for himself.

Xp has also said he will come visit him on the Wednesday night and bring OW with him, i havent met her but this is the woman who 2 years ago turned our life upside down when she and him started seeing each other and xp flung us out.

I told him that the first time i met her shouldnt be at our sons bedside after major surgery shock so he is bringing her to my house tonight, not sure if this is instead of bringing her to the hospital or if its so i have met her first before he does!

Dont think he will be "allowed" to come on his own as she "feels threatened by ds" hmm
he used to visit him 3 times a week for less than an hour but has now cut it down to twice as apparently she wasnt happy about it and hes going to be a bit busy the next few months anyway.

TBH i couldnt give a flying f**k about her as im sure he will end up treating her the same way as he treated us but as ever i am astounded by Xp's lack of tact and dont really need this on top of everything else.

Phoned the ward sister this morning to ask a few questions before ds admission and ended up blubbing like an idiot, blush just wish this next week was over already!!

Sorry for rambling!

Tclanger Mon 03-Nov-08 12:14:37

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TotalChaos Mon 03-Nov-08 12:16:30

Good luck with the op. Sorry about the OW issue. About the only reason that I could see why you might meet her would be to suss out if possibly she's not as unreasonable as x makes out and he's just using her as an excuse. But other than that I would explain to ward sister that you don't want her coming - am sure in the circs they would be happy not to let her in as it's not going to be in interests of your boy to see her.

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 12:25:41

Good point total chaos, maybe she isnt, xp does tend to fabricate the truth a bit!

Although, according to him, she doesnt like him coming to see ds as "its like he has another life" and to be fair if he's still here a wee bit later than usual shes on the phone or texting him giving him grief, i have overhead her shouting down the phone on several occasions most memorably christmas day, the video camera picked it up grin

Tonight should be interesting!

TotalChaos Mon 03-Nov-08 12:27:44

she sounds a right prize doesn't she hmm. And the cheek of her moaning about xp having another life - maybe next time she should go for a man without a child.

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 12:37:55

I'll try my best to remain dignified!

Im feeling quite sick and shaky at the moment, purely about the hospital and operation, but think xp is using the opportunity to bring her here while im off my guard IYKWIM. I'm quite suprised as he has said in the past he didnt want us ever to meet incase i told her stuff about him!

Maybe i should sit in the kitchen when they're in just incase i end up saying something or worse blubbing blush

TinySocks Mon 03-Nov-08 13:21:38

I think it is really insensitive of xp to bring the OW to see you during this very difficult week. Do you want to meet her? Sounds to me like he is pushing the meeting on to you.
Agree with TC, next time she needs to find a man without children!! What was she thinking, that he could just forget about his son? Goodness I just hate women that behave like this.

Meet and greet her and ever so, ever so, jokily wink tell her that you didn't think you'd ever get to meet her as XP said he was keeping you apart so you couldn't spill the beans on him !!

And make sure you've got your lippy on !!

Of course, if it upsets anyone, you have the 'traumatic time' excuse !

trace2 Mon 03-Nov-08 13:43:49

glitteryb6 good luck with the op on wed and am here if you want to ask any questions about it?

Tclanger Mon 03-Nov-08 13:52:27

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glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 14:11:41

I have no desire to meet her, nor i suspect she me, i think xp has decided enough time has passed that we should all be playing happy families...possibly just to ease his conscience??

my friend was going to be here but she and her wee boy have got the flu and we thought it best she stay away incase ds gets it, he also has chronic lung disease so can be prone to catching stuff

wont even be able to look glam as i got my hair cut the other day thinking if it was shorter it would be easier to manage in the hozzy but its a riot!

feelingbitbetter Mon 03-Nov-08 15:32:47

Good luck to you and DS this week - especially you tonight!
Keep your chin up, be as dignified as possible and grin thru gritted teeth. If she's the type to be a-hollerin' down the phone like an old fishwife, she won't know how to deal with that.
She will be dreading it as much as you, if not more.
Perhaps some good will come of it. If your xp is prone to a little...ahem....embelishment, then who knows what lies horror stories she's been told. Perhaps if she can see you are not mad with jealousy, she may lighten up re: xps visits to DS hmm?
Anyway, sorry you have to do it at all, and I do hope it goes OK.
More importantly, good luck to DS, I hope his recovery is a quick one xx

Tclanger Mon 03-Nov-08 15:45:03

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theheadgirl Mon 03-Nov-08 15:47:44

Good luck glitteryb, lots of love to you and your DS for his coming op.
As for tonight, remain calm and dignified, look on it as just a minor irritation to you compared to the important stuff. I speak as someone who knows what you're going thru re XP and OW and all that malarky. And definately lippy and mascara needed!

PeachyFizzesLikeADampSquib Mon 03-Nov-08 16:01:01

tell her you're glad she came as noe she's been met they can have ds on overnights as agreed with xp.

watch her run! cow.

good luck. one week my love and you'll be through it. sending vibes.

needmorecoffee Mon 03-Nov-08 16:48:14

what Peachy said, and emphasise dribbling and explain about tube feeding in detail. Oh, and ask if they'd like some feeding supplies for when ds stays over. You wont see her for dust grin
we'll all be there in spirit smile
Good luck for wednesday. Still waiting for a date for dd's G-tube surgery.

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 17:32:59

Thanks for all your wonderful comments ladies, they have so made me chuckle!

LOVE the idea of putting the fear of god into her about ds staying overnight, but to be fair, its never going to happen, xp prefers being a part time dad and if he did deign to have his son over he would probably bugger off out and leave OW to it and given how she allegedly feels about ds dont know that i'd ever feel safe about her having him sad

anyhoo ds is washed and fed and ready to perform...secretly hoping ds will poo or puke up on her grin

needmorecoffee Mon 03-Nov-08 17:34:43

they don't need to know you'd never let them have ds! wink
Good luck with it all. I'd come visit and glare at them for you but I think you're up north?

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 17:37:13

Glasgow, NMC so a wee bit far for you methinks, thanks for the offer though, and please feel free to send virtual glares around 6.50? grin

needmorecoffee Mon 03-Nov-08 17:38:51

could just phone up and shout Oi, OW, he's a plonker.
Would that help? grin
You do know that what we've said will pop into your head and you'll snort coffee out of your noe wink

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 17:42:11

grin although thats unlikely as theres NO WAY im making them a coffee!

BriocheDoree Mon 03-Nov-08 18:29:02

Good luck for Wednesday Glitteryb6. Hope your little man is OK. Sorry your XP is such a [insert suitable adjective here] and that you've got all the business with OW forced upon you right now (I take it the man has no tact!). Hope it all goes well! xxx

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 20:01:53

Well, the house was spotless, the hair gods must have smiled on me and my hair was washed and sitting perfectly, face was decorated and i'd psyched myself up by walking about humming the Wicked Witch of the West's theme tune from the Wizard of Oz for about an hour...that always works! grin

and.....

she didnt show!

xp looked a bit p'd off but didnt mention it at all which makes me think she either sh*t out of it or just wasnt interested in coming in the first place and its been all his idea.

Also he said he would come to the hospital on his own....so what was that all about then???

feelingbitbetter Mon 03-Nov-08 20:05:37

She sh*t out
grin

glitteryb6 Mon 03-Nov-08 20:09:16

Im all annoyed now cos i was totally ready for her! grin

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