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what would you do?? re council tranfer???

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:09

decided to try on here seeing that my "chat" post is being ignored, and some of you may know what to do!

Some of you will know about the trouble we had last week and now DH wants to move away. Someone that DH's sis knows has a four bedroom disabled adapted house and he wants to move back this way, he has HIV and an austic son so he would be allow to have my house, but the problem is its 3 hours away from here. I would lose my whole support network and would have start again with SAL, physio, SS, hospitals etc etc. We would have SIL 40 mins away as she is moving up that way next month,
I am tempted, i'm not saying I'm not but there is so many things holding me here. Dh is all up for it, purely for the fresh start and it would get us again from the old crowd and trouble.
advice needed please...

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coppertop · 10/03/2005 22:13

I've just followed you from the Chat thread. I think a lot of people are using the Active Conversations option with the Chat threads switched off.

Can you find out about support groups in that area? There's bound to be a list online somewhere. Asking local parents with similar needs may give you the insight you need about the resources available.

Are you able to say on here roughly where the new area is? Maybe someone on the SN board lives near there and can help.

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:14

its in Stafford, I only have seen a pic of the front of the house, but seeing its a 4 bedroom house, it would be ideal and it has all the ramps and everything.

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coppertop · 10/03/2005 22:16

Didn't Keane used to live somewhere near there?

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:16

whats Stafford like?? does anyone know

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pixiefish · 10/03/2005 22:19

how far would you be from your family? for me that would be my main consideration as i get a lot of support from them

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coppertop · 10/03/2005 22:21

The house sounds ideal. Probably a silly question but are all the bedrooms upstairs?

You could always try another thread to find Keane. I'm sure I remember her saying that the services in her area were pretty good.

God I really sound stalkerish now. Sorry.

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:22

3 hours away!! My parents are my main support and this is one of the reasons I want to stay here, also we have recently been approved respite for Dd1 and I'd hate to lose that.

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:23

yes all the bedrooms are upstairs but its has a sepatare (sp??) dining room. It also can have a stairlift put in.

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coppertop · 10/03/2005 22:24

It sounds like a great house. I can see your dilemma though if you get a lot of support where you are now.

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Potty1 · 10/03/2005 22:28

sparkly - I live near to Stoke which is about 20 miles from Stafford and my db lives a couple of miles from there. Keane (Gawd what am I like - I've only just realised whos she is lol) used to live in Stafford so will know all about the SN provision. The town itself is fine AFAIK, not a huge place but everything you need. Mainline railway station in town, I don't have experience of the hospital in Stafford, the nearest specialist children's is Birmingham and the hospital in Stoke which is larger takes some of the paed cases.

HTH

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:31

whats the crime rate like? And are the schools good? I am waiting for the bloke to email more info so I can't go on upmystreet.com till I have his postcode etc. I thik because I have live here all my life, its a scary thought about moving away from here IYKWIM?

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pixiefish · 10/03/2005 22:32

Personally I wouldn't because I couldn't do without my parents. BUT. There are 2 seperate issues here.

  1. Your housing needs
  2. This problem with the friends ex.

    If 2 is serious enough to warrant moving then yes you must go.

    If 2 is not serious enough then could your local council not be forced into doing something?

    The other point to consider is - would your parents move with you?
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pixiefish · 10/03/2005 22:32

Personally I wouldn't because I couldn't do without my parents. BUT. There are 2 seperate issues here.

  1. Your housing needs
  2. This problem with the friends ex.

    If 2 is serious enough to warrant moving then yes you must go.

    If 2 is not serious enough then could your local council not be forced into doing something?

    The other point to consider is - would your parents move with you?
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pixiefish · 10/03/2005 22:33

separate I mean- and me an English teacher

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:36

I don't think my parents would want to move that far up I don't know how the situation with friends ex will go atm, he hasn't been back, but I can't risk it that he won't be back. My kids are my life and I would die for them and I need to be sure they are safe,
re: My housing needs I know this house is ideal, but why couldn't it be closer!!??

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Potty1 · 10/03/2005 22:36

Stafford is ST15

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:37

thanks potty1 will go and look now!

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pixiefish · 10/03/2005 22:38

I know mieow- its flippin hard being grown up and having to make all these decisions isn't it

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:43

just checked out Stafford and the schools....... wow!!! their results are amazing!!! much higher than DS' school atm. Crime rate is lower than here and the population is higher!!

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:47

pixiefish, I hate being an adult and making these decisions for myself, its quite scary!!

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coppertop · 10/03/2005 22:52

I'm already feeling jittery about the decision and it's got b*gger-all to do with me!

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 22:54

lol That made me

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sparklymieow · 10/03/2005 23:01

I'm only 26, shouldn't have to make life changing decisions at my age!! I think I'll let my mummy make it!!

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Keane · 11/03/2005 08:42

Just to say, yes i used to live in Stafford. I will be back in a bit, have to take ds to nursery. Your sister has me on her msn, if that would be easier?

anyway I will be back in a bit, just wanted to bookmark it so I didnt forget

YOU BUNCH OF BLOODY STALKERS

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Keane · 11/03/2005 10:10

Where about in Stafford is it chuck?

From my experience, all our appointments were dealt with by Stafford hospital. Dr's from genetic centre's/neurology etc in Birmingham did clinics in Stafford Hospital, so there wasnt any travelling involved for us.

The town is old market town - it the County town obv, has most stuff, huge library, leisure centre, CDC (!), Uni, College, RAF (lol) most shops, M&S, topshop, mothercare DP's etc etc Asda, Sainsburys and Tesco, lots of kid friendly pubs. Cannock Chase is about 10-15 mins drive for plenty of walks. Cannock Chase is really beautiful.

Crime rate is quite low. We never had much rouble with crime tbh. had problems with neighbours but hopefully you wont be living up our old street.

I only have experience of pre-school support tbh. My dd used to go to a special school for physical disabilities, they take 2-7yr olds, most children above 4 have outreach to mainstream whislt having most the therapeutic input through the special school. There is one main special school in Stafford for learning disabilities (Marshfields), they take 2-19 yr olds, one in Lichfield 5-17 yr olds which is for Physical disabilities (Saxon Hill), there is one in Cannock for PD aswell (Beaconfield I think it's called) and one in Hednesford (William Baxters) which is for moderate learning disabilities. All have good reputations.

I know a few children that have gone to mainstream with statements (statements are quite easy to get in Staffs) and have support and they do pretty well. Most schools are quite good in Stafford for this. Only one I know my friend had problems with was Berkswich. The rest are okay. Silkmore is a 'failing' primary (when I was there) but tbh they have a 70% intake of SN children! and are suppossed to be very good with SN provision .

Anyway i wont rattle on, just ask me what you like and I will try to help you! I lived in Stafford for 8 years and lived on most sides of the town!

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