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what would you do?? re council tranfer???

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sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:09:41

decided to try on here seeing that my "chat" post is being ignored, and some of you may know what to do!

Some of you will know about the trouble we had last week and now DH wants to move away. Someone that DH's sis knows has a four bedroom disabled adapted house and he wants to move back this way, he has HIV and an austic son so he would be allow to have my house, but the problem is its 3 hours away from here. I would lose my whole support network and would have start again with SAL, physio, SS, hospitals etc etc. We would have SIL 40 mins away as she is moving up that way next month,
I am tempted, i'm not saying I'm not but there is so many things holding me here. Dh is all up for it, purely for the fresh start and it would get us again from the old crowd and trouble.
advice needed please...

coppertop Thu 10-Mar-05 22:13:25

I've just followed you from the Chat thread. I think a lot of people are using the Active Conversations option with the Chat threads switched off.

Can you find out about support groups in that area? There's bound to be a list online somewhere. Asking local parents with similar needs may give you the insight you need about the resources available.

Are you able to say on here roughly where the new area is? Maybe someone on the SN board lives near there and can help.

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:14:50

its in Stafford, I only have seen a pic of the front of the house, but seeing its a 4 bedroom house, it would be ideal and it has all the ramps and everything.

coppertop Thu 10-Mar-05 22:16:04

Didn't Keane used to live somewhere near there?

<she asks while trying not to sound like a stalker>

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:16:54

whats Stafford like?? does anyone know

pixiefish Thu 10-Mar-05 22:19:22

how far would you be from your family? for me that would be my main consideration as i get a lot of support from them

coppertop Thu 10-Mar-05 22:21:12

The house sounds ideal. Probably a silly question but are all the bedrooms upstairs?

You could always try another thread to find Keane. I'm sure I remember her saying that the services in her area were pretty good.

God I really sound stalkerish now. Sorry.

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:22:13

3 hours away!! My parents are my main support and this is one of the reasons I want to stay here, also we have recently been approved respite for Dd1 and I'd hate to lose that.

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:23:32

yes all the bedrooms are upstairs but its has a sepatare (sp??) dining room. It also can have a stairlift put in.

coppertop Thu 10-Mar-05 22:24:46

It sounds like a great house. I can see your dilemma though if you get a lot of support where you are now.

Potty1 Thu 10-Mar-05 22:28:09

sparkly - I live near to Stoke which is about 20 miles from Stafford and my db lives a couple of miles from there. Keane (Gawd what am I like - I've only just realised whos she is lol) used to live in Stafford so will know all about the SN provision. The town itself is fine AFAIK, not a huge place but everything you need. Mainline railway station in town, I don't have experience of the hospital in Stafford, the nearest specialist children's is Birmingham and the hospital in Stoke which is larger takes some of the paed cases.

HTH

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:31:18

whats the crime rate like? And are the schools good? I am waiting for the bloke to email more info so I can't go on upmystreet.com till I have his postcode etc. I thik because I have live here all my life, its a scary thought about moving away from here IYKWIM?

pixiefish Thu 10-Mar-05 22:32:48

Personally I wouldn't because I couldn't do without my parents. BUT. There are 2 seperate issues here.
1. Your housing needs
2. This problem with the friends ex.

If 2 is serious enough to warrant moving then yes you must go.

If 2 is not serious enough then could your local council not be forced into doing something?

The other point to consider is - would your parents move with you?

pixiefish Thu 10-Mar-05 22:32:49

Personally I wouldn't because I couldn't do without my parents. BUT. There are 2 seperate issues here.
1. Your housing needs
2. This problem with the friends ex.

If 2 is serious enough to warrant moving then yes you must go.

If 2 is not serious enough then could your local council not be forced into doing something?

The other point to consider is - would your parents move with you?

pixiefish Thu 10-Mar-05 22:33:20

separate I mean- and me an English teacher

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:36:16

I don't think my parents would want to move that far up I don't know how the situation with friends ex will go atm, he hasn't been back, but I can't risk it that he won't be back. My kids are my life and I would die for them and I need to be sure they are safe,
re: My housing needs I know this house is ideal, but why couldn't it be closer!!??

Potty1 Thu 10-Mar-05 22:36:44

Stafford is ST15

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:37:19

thanks potty1 will go and look now!

pixiefish Thu 10-Mar-05 22:38:17

I know mieow- its flippin hard being grown up and having to make all these decisions isn't it

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:43:32

just checked out Stafford and the schools....... wow!!! their results are amazing!!! much higher than DS' school atm. Crime rate is lower than here and the population is higher!!

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:47:32

pixiefish, I hate being an adult and making these decisions for myself, its quite scary!!

coppertop Thu 10-Mar-05 22:52:13

I'm already feeling jittery about the decision and it's got b*gger-all to do with me!

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 22:54:31

lol That made me

sparklymieow Thu 10-Mar-05 23:01:31

I'm only 26, shouldn't have to make life changing decisions at my age!! I think I'll let my mummy make it!!

Keane Fri 11-Mar-05 08:42:31

Just to say, yes i used to live in Stafford. I will be back in a bit, have to take ds to nursery. Your sister has me on her msn, if that would be easier?

anyway I will be back in a bit, just wanted to bookmark it so I didnt forget

YOU BUNCH OF BLOODY STALKERS

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