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DS3's latest...... BOUNCING !(17 Posts)
....and i hate to say it ...it is driving me mad! (actually really hard focussing on anything he says to me- genuinely making me feel dizzy- not joking)
do i comment on it?...dh keeps telling him to stop it.
replacing with other activity...which as soon as he stops...bounces.
assuming a stim of sorts....also back to chewing collar at moment.
Also alternatively sutting 1 eye at a time and looking through partly clenched fist when being spoken too.
yes...i know i "THINK" i know what he's doing...and why...but feel a bit like i'm not sure what i try to 'tweak' and what to 'ignore'.
also...he spends alot of time doing headstands on the setee...and watching TV or talking to me from that angle.
You've kidnapped my ds2!
He's either bouncing (on the bed, the furniture, his mini-trampoline thing, or just on the floor) or upside down somewhere.
He does the eye thing too although I'm not sure why.
No collar chewing though. <phew>
I usually just ignore it unless it's stopping him from doing what he's supposed to be doing, eg getting ready for school or bed. Then again, I'm a lazy b*gger so probably not the best person to advise.
my DS1 bounces on his knees on the floor like a frog. accompanied by the humming (see thread).
oh and he's got his hand down his pants all the time.
and I'm pregnant so I can't even resort to heavy drinking.
I have no idea what to do about bouncing/humming/chewing/willy fiddling, I guess a strict behavioural approach would help but I, too, am too lazy & busy with other things to spend all day on his case. deep breaths, zen-like calm....
the collar thing is a real pain as the chewing spreads to most of the top half of his shirts- mainly at school- avoid collars in all other clothes!
so being a real cow...today i put a tiny smear od 'stop'n'grow' on his collar.
have done it in the past...on things like remote controls, playstation controllers...other such things...but never on his collar.
am feeling a tad guilty now- as the collar chewing is something he does....so what will he do instead at school if his collars are yuck?
My 5 year old ds2 does collar chewing, bouncing, and humming, especially at night when it is louder. It drives me insane and have had a whole weekend of it. My 3 year old ds3 does the eye thing, and biting and licking. Weekends are erm very interesting in this house. Evenings are surreal.
I have no idea how to handle it all though, and try to ignore it, but not very good at that either. Monday is bliss, as atleast they are both at school, and my youngest is at nursery for half a day.
I have a trampette, it has worked wonders. Except now, ds2 has worked out that he can use it as leverage, and for bouncing things on .
I agree on the mini trampoline thing. We have on in ds2 bedroom, otherwise his bed would be broken.
ds2 only chews the collar on his coat. He does stick his hand down his nappy, but at the back, need to constantly check he hasnt pooed, as last time he had, he decided to smear it all over the walls. Lovely.
reft trampette.... _"Except now, ds2 has worked out that he can use it as leverage, and for bouncing things on"_....now that sounds like MY boy!!!!
still i reckon something even like a large squishy coushion to bounce on in a confined area may be an idea....i've even seen him drag his quilt down and use that...so this has gor me thinking that i need to 'persuade' him to bounce where 'appropriate'!!!!
We get bouncing and rolling on everything, which is maddening when its his bed at 3 in the morning. Also likes to hang upsidedown off the sofa. twiddles his hand in front of his right eye as he talks.
We bought a trampoline - best move ever. It stops him destroying the house and really seems to calm him down. I ignore what I can, as if I say anything he looks bewildered as I don't think he even knows he is doing it.
I too wander if i should stop the behaviour, especially the hand twisting thin as it looks very odd, but then I ask myself who is it bothering - not him. I've stopped caring what other people think as long as he is calm and happy.
'Also alternatively sutting 1 eye at a time and looking through partly clenched fist when being spoken too.' ds3 does this, wish I knew why. ds3 also bounces and puts all in his mouth.
ds1 does the headstands- not uncommon apparently. Also the hands down pants; spins (it makes me nauyseous so I have to leave the room.
It's as if they have a list of behaviours to select from- wide, but not limited! I even found another cheese shouter on mn rcently!
we have the wee trampoline too - but ds prefers the bounce he gets on his bed, and worse still, he likes bouncing in dd's cot, because he can watch himself in the mirror while doing it. thankfully he's not willy fiddling at the same time.
poor dd is either going to be the most tolerant child in the world, or will run away from us as soon as she can!!
DS5 doesnt do 'bouncing' as hes dyspraxic (thankful for small mercies eh? ) but he runs the length of the settee (there are 7 of us so the settee runs the length of the house) wether or not people are currently occupying it, and flings himself at the cushion at the end - i assume its the same sensory seeking thing.
He also does an 'eye thing' where he looks right out the corners of his eyes, so hes either looking out of his ears, or round the next corner!
PS i think he does it because it limits vision too, so he can focus on a smaller visual area with less distractions.
Ds looks through his hand - I can cope with that. The bouncing we send him outside (or his room if weather unsuitable)- he also does a up and down jiggle (body bouncing)whilst humming loudly and that is unbearable (told to stop or go to his room - it really is intolerable for others). Don't know how to stop the hand down pants - I just remove his hand ( or ask if he needs the toilet!) or if at home send him to the bathroom (he then stops himself)! Think it is less than it used to be! Collar chewing - is a nusance we cant seem to stop - he can be redirected to fiddling (tactile toy, blutac) but still chews when in between activities or anxious.
Tclanger our remaining curtain poles are put up with bolts intended to hold heavy shelves! We have mostly blinds even though I hate them but dh got fed up with repair jobs! Ds has ripped curtains when grabbing to save himself - the disadvantage of poles that resist falling!
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