How do other parents discipline inappropriate behaviour in ADHD/ASD kids? I find it very difficult to know where to draw the line between what J can?t help because of whatever his condition is, and what is normal six year old naughtiness and mischief that needs to be checked. I?ve found (as I?m sure plenty of you have too) that I need to overlook some of the lesser behaviour otherwise I?d be on his back all day, and as it?s important to maintain self esteem I try my best not to do that. Also, I need to keep him safe ? this morning during our usual getting-ready fiasco, I had to let him get away with not washing his hands because he was driving me so crazy I had to walk out the bathroom before I started shouting at him (or worse). IMO it?s better for him to go to school with wee on his hands than having had a barney with his mum. Or am I letting him get away with poor hygiene?!
I have discussed with J that I know he can?t help certain areas of his behaviour and although he was relieved at the time and I was in no doubt that he was glad that I was on his side, I?m now wondering whether it was such a good idea. Sometimes now when I reprimand him he?ll say ?But it?s just how I am? and I?m concerned that I?ve handed him an excuse to act up without being blamed for it. OTOH, even with things I don?t think he can help I?m always careful to point out that it?s not acceptable and that it?s important to keep trying ? he has to learn to fit in with society?s expectations and I think I?d be a bad parent if I let him get away without knowing that.
It?s a minefield. Where do others draw the line?
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KarenThirl · 04/03/2005 09:43
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