oh dear I needed to let of steam about the do gooders. this is not about people who post in sn, I only read and anser threads where I have something to offer. I know nothing(apart from what I have learnt about on here) about say autism, so no point me trying to advise somone(although I can offer support and a hug) Riven I wasn't having a pop at you.But 2 threads have now happened singling out one child. yet i know at least half a dozen on here that are fund raising. I am glad you have had help. I just get angry when people can't see the bigger picture.