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Does anyones child do shaking not flapping

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Mumfun Wed 10-Sep-08 21:16:51

Hope its ok to post on here. Have posted about my 4 year old DS in past. He is on SN register on school for behavioural reasons. May have SN but not known yet.

One thing he has started to do is do shaking. This is where he gets an object ie a longish thing he can shake. He shakes it and gets very excited and talks to it and uses it to imagine I think. He does it a lot of the time - he shakes leaves out in the street, toy trains stuck together, an aeroplane with a string attached, long thin bath toys - anything.

The thing is that it has shocked me as I now recall that I used to do this when I was little. I used to take myself into my own world when I did it - I loved it. But my parents thought I was strange, were unsympathetic and I was teased by the whole family about it. There was talk I half remember of me seeing a psychiatrist but I dont think I did.

It does look strange - and I think I learnt to just do it at home because of that.

So it has made me wonder - does anyone know what it is or come across anything like it? Its not flapping - its different to that. It has also made me wonder about why I did it. I do understand why DS does it as it is 'nice' but I do orry about what others think of it.

Any information would really help me. Thanks

PeachySoLongAndTa4AllTheFish Wed 10-Sep-08 21:23:04

Of course you can post here!

Souns like stimming (self stimulatory behavviour i think) which is very common in sn kid, both of mine do it in one format or another. It can be a coping strategy, an overload induced thing or jus becuase, as you say, its nice.

Try no to let it get to you (easier said than done- my ds1 will shoult cheeese for hours as a stim, drives me round the bend) but if you feel you need to manage it, teaching appropriate places is good, or distraction- some kid have a toy in their pocket they camn squeeze for example.

misscutandstick Thu 11-Sep-08 09:19:47

neither of mine do the traditional 'flap' either - one strokes labels (hes 15 and carries a variety in every pocket!) and the other tenses all his musles in his hands and arms, which makes for very peculiar angles grin, but both are 'stims' so i suppose a stim can come in any shape or form.

Just to point out tho, even 'NT' adults have stims... clicking pens, chewing hair, biting nails, 'pill-rolling' (stroking thumb and index finger pads together in a circular motion), foot waggling, knee jigging, face stroking... TBQH we're all a bit wierd grin from somebody elses POV.

Marne Thu 11-Sep-08 09:32:27

Dd1(AS) strokes labels

Dd2(ASD) flaps, shakes and spins around until she falls over.

Yes i notice things that dd1 does that i used to do when i was a child, i also chewed clothes/hair and had 100's of books on one subject. Sometimes i wonder if i have AS, dh shows even more traits.

hecate Thu 11-Sep-08 09:37:37

yeah, mine shake stuff as well as flap their hands.

And make pincer like movements
And slap their faces
And make odd noises
And bounce up and down
And make all sorts of odd body movements
And come into my face and twitch at me hmm
And vibrate themselves (odd to explain, have to see it really!!)

Mumfun Thu 11-Sep-08 13:52:11

wow thanks so much.

Amazing to put a name to something so part of my and my DS life. And thanks for the point re NT too -hadnt thought of that!

Peachy Thu 11-Sep-08 16:22:34

but nobody else gets cheeeese <<sigh>> wink

we get pincers yes (snip nip bird he calls it), and flapping; ds3 flaps and shakes down in the manner of a dodgy drama lesson circa 1985 (is that what you meant?)

amber32002 Thu 11-Sep-08 16:31:00

Shaking? Yup. Anything that creates a repetitive visual image, or repetitive feeling. Wonderful. Used to, don't now. blush

hecate Thu 11-Sep-08 16:38:10

Cheeeeese? Saying it you mean? I get "nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine nine" chanted superfast while jiggling. They are odd little beggers, aren't they? grin

Peachy Thu 11-Sep-08 18:33:27

The are!

Definitely saying it- he's allergic to it to eat LOL

He fllowws kids a school for hours going chheeeeese ad flapping

expatinscotland Thu 11-Sep-08 18:35:20

DD1 has dyspraxia. She used to flap, but now it's more of a spasm, particularly in her legs, when she gets excited.

kt14 Thu 11-Sep-08 19:37:13

lol at cheeeeeese. sorry peachy, I bet it gets on your wick but it did make me choke on my coffee laughing!

SparklyGothKat Fri 12-Sep-08 00:43:06

omg we get chheeeeessseeeeee from Ds1 all the time. lol

Wuxiapian Fri 12-Sep-08 10:15:46

My son vigorously rubs/scratches his head when he's excited.

It's getting less cute now that he's almost 10 hmm

Peachy Fri 12-Sep-08 10:24:08

Hurrah for SGK! DS1 is not alone and other people are driven amd by the bloody word!.

We had piggy for a bit when he was really little; oh yes and 'robot robot dn dn dn' which came with a bizarre dance (long before the footie robot thang, not that ds1 knows anything about professional footie).

KT14 your karma will now bring you something equally annoying wink

SparklyGothKat Fri 12-Sep-08 13:22:51

lol we also get 'Pieeeees' Ds1 has possible AS, consultant finally listened to me yesterday and is looking into his 'traits' grin

Peachy Fri 12-Sep-08 15:53:56

pmsl- remember him as a 3 yr old flapping yelling pieee in the skyyyyyyy (we had a song 'gonna fly like a pie in the sky / way up high / way up high like a pie in the sky' lol)

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