Hope its ok to post on here. Have posted about my 4 year old DS in past. He is on SN register on school for behavioural reasons. May have SN but not known yet.
One thing he has started to do is do shaking. This is where he gets an object ie a longish thing he can shake. He shakes it and gets very excited and talks to it and uses it to imagine I think. He does it a lot of the time - he shakes leaves out in the street, toy trains stuck together, an aeroplane with a string attached, long thin bath toys - anything.
The thing is that it has shocked me as I now recall that I used to do this when I was little. I used to take myself into my own world when I did it - I loved it. But my parents thought I was strange, were unsympathetic and I was teased by the whole family about it. There was talk I half remember of me seeing a psychiatrist but I dont think I did.
It does look strange - and I think I learnt to just do it at home because of that.
So it has made me wonder - does anyone know what it is or come across anything like it? Its not flapping - its different to that. It has also made me wonder about why I did it. I do understand why DS does it as it is 'nice' but I do orry about what others think of it.
Souns like stimming (self stimulatory behavviour i think) which is very common in sn kid, both of mine do it in one format or another. It can be a coping strategy, an overload induced thing or jus becuase, as you say, its nice.
Try no to let it get to you (easier said than done- my ds1 will shoult cheeese for hours as a stim, drives me round the bend) but if you feel you need to manage it, teaching appropriate places is good, or distraction- some kid have a toy in their pocket they camn squeeze for example.
neither of mine do the traditional 'flap' either - one strokes labels (hes 15 and carries a variety in every pocket!) and the other tenses all his musles in his hands and arms, which makes for very peculiar angles , but both are 'stims' so i suppose a stim can come in any shape or form.
Just to point out tho, even 'NT' adults have stims... clicking pens, chewing hair, biting nails, 'pill-rolling' (stroking thumb and index finger pads together in a circular motion), foot waggling, knee jigging, face stroking... TBQH we're all a bit wierd from somebody elses POV.
yeah, mine shake stuff as well as flap their hands.
And make pincer like movements And slap their faces And make odd noises And bounce up and down And make all sorts of odd body movements And come into my face and twitch at me And vibrate themselves (odd to explain, have to see it really!!)
Hurrah for SGK! DS1 is not alone and other people are driven amd by the bloody word!.
We had piggy for a bit when he was really little; oh yes and 'robot robot dn dn dn' which came with a bizarre dance (long before the footie robot thang, not that ds1 knows anything about professional footie).
KT14 your karma will now bring you something equally annoying