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It' s Day Five in the Peachy term and already we're one stand up row with teacher down.... thanks be for the DDA!

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Peachy Mon 08-Sep-08 16:14:02

We have new school meal rules: only milk at break, only water rest of day.

Harry is intolerant to milk, will only spit out water- attempts to get him to drink it resulted in abandonment of the idea rather rapidly!

So today he takes in his usual snack- squash and a 100% dried fruit bar (letter says only fresh or dried fruit)

No calls frm school, I was ome all da

Teacher marches out- holding full drink and snack- both confiscated on arrival: poor kid had no drink all day (had lunch to eatbut had t sit watch other kids eat snacks)

teacher tells me its hard luck, better go sort with head, she's not interested (Cow)

lckily last term i'd have been scared, i have been working on developing my inner tigress (read nineteen by jodi picoult, realised that could be sam if I didnt buck up my ideas)

So I head ver to head, luckly his old 1-1 is in the foyer and can back me up that Harry won't have water. Secretary is shaking her head, second asd kid affewcted this way today!

1-1 tells me harry was sat alone crying at lunchtime but because of poor vocab couldn't tell her what was up.

Lady in charge of food comes over (nursery teacher----??) and sas its the new welsh assembly rules; I point out that the DDA supersedes tis and sefco is behind me nodding fervently

he canhave non-warer now if I send a letter and teacher was bullshitting about the dried fruit not being OK but aarrrrgggghhhhh here we go again

feel right proud of myself though for sorting it and nor being a wuss or calling dh in

FioFio Mon 08-Sep-08 16:17:13

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Peachy Mon 08-Sep-08 16:21:46

'1-1 tells me harry was sat alone crying at lunchtime but because of poor vocab couldn't tell her what was up. ' thats heartbreaking thogh sn't it? poor lad

thank goodness they are doing his review next week- if they try and pull 1-1 will really get mad!

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Peachy Mon 08-Sep-08 16:38:16

Oh and- can you tell I am pissed off and Dh isn't here to whinge to LOL- the superhealthy school dinner today, just to back up their initiatives-

was hot dog and chips.

I also have a crying DS2 (the NT one) as he was beaten up at lunchtime in Juniors (just gone up) by one f the groups Sam has antagonised but are toos cared to go for Sam


I deserve a glass of wine tonight

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Peachy Mon 08-Sep-08 16:42:00

chps twice a week here- English rules dont apply- on MOndays its pie / hot dog / burger and chips on a three week rotation; on fridays its fish day- no nice tuna and jackets, or fishcake and salad- fishcake / haddock grill / fishfingers... and chips

AttilaTheMeerkat Mon 08-Sep-08 17:25:27

Well done Peachy for finding your inner tigress!!.

Bloody schools and their mixed messages re food. So no drinks other than water or milk but they're quite happy to dish up hot dog and chips (think someone went a big long on chips). They have NO idea honestly!.

BriocheDoree Mon 08-Sep-08 18:07:44

That's the most ridiculous thing I've heard today! Hope DS is OK. It's downright MEAN not to let a kid have his drink, even if it's not deemed "appropriate"! Even if a child is NT, teacher should give them the drink/snack and complain to the parent if they have a problem.

bullet123 Mon 08-Sep-08 18:13:45

What on earth is wrong with a fruit bar? And you can get some perfectly healthy squashes that have no added sugar or sweeteners in them.

dustystar Mon 08-Sep-08 18:21:48

Poor Harrysadangry
Good on you for finding your inner tigress thoughsmile

TotalChaos Mon 08-Sep-08 18:21:56

teacher sounds like a stupid cow quite frankly. am glad various other staff sound to be more supportive.

DS's school only have milk or water at snack time, but packed lunch restriction is only no fizzy drinks, not anything else.

anonandlikeit Mon 08-Sep-08 18:36:17

How bloody stupid, surely that is damaging to refuse a child a drink ALL DAY! Poor boy.
I bet they all sat in the staff room with a cuppa at lunch time.

Well done for sorting them out. Go tiger!

Peachy Mon 08-Sep-08 19:30:36

Am going to add to the waiver they insist on that as he isnt far from being a non-talker really (1st centile for most language skills) in the future they must call me about these things

i mean, I am under 3 minutes walk away!

misscutandstick Mon 08-Sep-08 20:26:17

well done you!!!

i had a very similar experience (not hyjack, just to enforce the farce!) with DS1 many years ago...

the letter stated: "cheese or fruit", which DS1 (ADHD+) wasnt a big fan of (understatement), but at a push could be co-erced into a dainty sarnie (no crust and EQUALATERAL triangles, and NO fobbing off thankyou!). so off to school he went, tiniest sarnie in a smidget box.

came home... complete with bread, and half chewed cheese - the --t**t-- teacher had peeled off the cheese and 'allowed' him to eat that (which of course he didnt, and then sarnies {dainty or not} were then off the list too angry ) and tried to co-erce him into comsuming just the cheese, hence the half chewed stuff. hmm hmm seems that times have not changed...

but hey! well done you smile really proud for standing up for him!

tibni Mon 08-Sep-08 20:54:54

Well done peachy.

I had similar problem in reception with asd ds. We were lucky that EP said it was health and safety issue and school had to back down.

ds now yr 3 and these type of incidents don't tend to happen now and I feel much stronger to face the issues that arise.

unfitmother Mon 08-Sep-08 21:00:38

Bastards! angry

Well done!

Mamazon Mon 08-Sep-08 21:05:07

D'ya know i nearluy cried reading that as this si what happens all the time with ds.

Good on you for standing up to her and getting this sorted.
i wouldactually give the teacher the letter tomorrow morning and sk her to apologise to harry and explain to him that he can have his squash and that she was wrong to have taken it from him.

poor boysad angry

Peachy Tue 09-Sep-08 09:12:54

I gave the letter in today

Dep head (aka Senco) actually stood up for harold shock and Head of nursery / Nutrition (? about that overlapping) now understands- but his class teacher is still saying no! we didnt get to argue (a crying child turned up and as she has problems far more severe than harold- chemo- we left her to it and went over to the office)

Did put in letter that they MUST contact us in the future as we are his voice.

chipmonkey Tue 09-Sep-08 10:43:04

Way to go, CrouchingPeachyHiddenTiger!grin

Nat1H Tue 09-Sep-08 11:25:41

The class teacher is still saying no? What a stupid cow.angry
Why don't you tell her that drinks are not allowed for her all day either and see how she likes becoming dehydrated!

Peachy Tue 09-Sep-08 12:09:09

I think she has something going on- she was off sick last term s depression? Could also be a grudge- she swore ds1 was nt before he got dx. Hoping its not personal, and that she's just a bit thick (and therefore doesn't realise I am Always Right).

Peachy Tue 09-Sep-08 12:10:59

(eeek- forgot the wink after that!)

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