DMy ds is on the autistic spectrum with add traits. My ex has the same symptoms and via the family physcologist also has the same condition. I am no longer with the ex even though we live in the same house at the mo. I can not deal with ex as well as a 0 to 4 year old with his sister that was born only 1 year after my ds. My ex is aggressive, short tempered, does not remember anything (this is not the normal male forgetfulness either). He thinks what any body tells or suggests to him is utter c p. He is permanently fidgity and does not really like many people. Love was blind i must admit before children but then as i had them and realised that all the lies he had told me were lies and that so he could keep me and control me he agreed with things that i wanted. This little part does not really matter but i just need to know if there are any ex partners that are on teh spectrum that can not cope with looking after their children and how do you manage him seeeing the kids, taking them, letting him go out with them. My ex never remembers to hold hadns with them and my son is like grease lightning very active if you do not constantly talk to him about what is going to happen and where we are going. My ex does not remember form day to day how to look/take care of them. I dont mind him looking after them in the home as i have minimulised the danger areas. But my son is starting to say he wants daddy to take me out when i pop out and i am scared that he will and that there safety will not be important as i have never seen him remmebr to make an effort. He also just does not want to learn how to look after them, saying they are my kids i will look after them how i like. If they got run lover because he again forgot to hold their hands he would just say i forgot or lie as he does all the time. I hope this makes sense as he is next door and want to write this as quick as poss.
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