DS1 is nearly 7 and DS2 is 4 with a speech disorder and some associated behavioural issues. They have always got on quite well in a rough and tumble sort of way usually. However lately DS1 has just been so horrible to DS2 in a really spiteful way and I am finding it very difficult to cope with.
I think partly its about the fact that DS1 has a conventional system of consequences of bad behaviour and DS2 doesn't. We do reprimand him when he does something wrong, but his comprehension is too poor to understand anything too complex like a rewards system. DS1 is increasingly furious about it. 'Its not my fault, tell HIM off' is his constant refrain. Everything DS2 does, usually friendly and fun is fobbed off as annoying or stupid. He often hits him and often screeches at him 'BE QUIET' which of course I get really cross at as DS2 is trying so hard to communicate.
We have had conversations about DS2s language issues but he doesn't really get it.
Am I being unreasonable to expect DS1 to understand that there are exceptional circumstances at work? He does get loads of one on one time with us, and gets loads more material stuff as DS2 is generally not interested.
I have read many of you saying how wonderful your NT siblings have turned out having learned compassion from their circumstances. Is there hope for my boy? Sorry to sound so dramatic, but I'm not sure how to handle this and its upsetting me.
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Shells · 03/08/2008 09:56
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