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Ds was assessed today, he is between six and 12 months behind in most areas

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emkana Thu 17-Jul-08 22:02:09

While I was expecting it it still kind of hurts to have to talk about what your child can't do. sad

TotalChaos Thu 17-Jul-08 22:24:25

very sorry you had such a depressing appointment emkana. he's still very little (just over 2 isn't he) so even if it's a long haul, there's still plenty of time for him to make good progress.

Arabica Thu 17-Jul-08 23:01:44

Hi emkana, am in exactly the same situation, so know what you mean! DD is very good at walking but everything else is around the 12-month mark, except for speech which is probably a few months less than that. But on the positive side, all our health professionals are super-keen to help and statementing is going smoothly. Hope you have a good team too.

SixSpotBurnet Thu 17-Jul-08 23:04:41

Oh em sad.

I do know how you feel - DS3 has the capabilities of an 18 months old, he's 4 in a couple of weeks, but I know that doesn't really help sad.

But he will make progress in his own terms - that's the thing to cling on to - not to compare them to others but to keep looking at how well they are doing in their own terms - when I look at DS3 in his own terms I can see that he is making progress.

Arabica Thu 17-Jul-08 23:14:28

Exactly 6 spot. DD might not be able to do as much as her peers but she is doing much, much better than she was this time even three months ago. And hopefully your DS is also progressing?

MmeLindt Thu 17-Jul-08 23:17:18

Sorry to hear this emkana

I agree with sixspot, you have to concentrate on the advances he makes and not the comparisson to other children.

How is your Doc? Has he prescribed much treatment?

emkana Thu 17-Jul-08 23:17:26

Yes he is, and he is super-cute, especially when he's walking around in his sister's clippety-cloppety shoes (pink) and with his other sister's pink poodle handbag. grin

emkana Thu 17-Jul-08 23:18:15

He's having speech therapy and will get hearing aids soon, also he will hopefully soon get portage and specialist nursery provision.

MmeLindt Thu 17-Jul-08 23:29:48

That is good. I think that the support that the DCs get is very important.

DS's best friend in Kita is almost deaf and has hearing aids. His speech is not good either. But it has not at all hindered him in integrating in the group, he loves playing with DS and DS loves him.

The kindergaertnerin said that even though they do not understand each other's speech, they get on really well and DS can understand what his friend wants to say and do, sometimes better than the staff.

The kita is great, they sent the erzieherinnen on a course recently to learn sign language.

Will your DS get a place in an integrated nursery then?

emkana Thu 17-Jul-08 23:31:13

Hopefully yes, we will have to see.

Tclanger Fri 18-Jul-08 08:17:51

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misscutandstick Fri 18-Jul-08 09:43:22

my DS has much the same problems as your DC's, but as far as i know his hearing is OK (tho having that checked out soon). DS5 is 2.1 also. His developement is that of a 12mth old except for speech too - rated at 6-8mth by SALT. so i know well the problems and worries you have. Ds5 is also the happiest little chappy, with a great big beaming smile, bluest eyes, and silky soft blonde hair.

What surprises me is the different ways that the professionals treat us all, Arabica has statementing process up and running & SALT, we have portage & SALT (no-ones mentioned statementing), and emkana's DC has SALT with portage on the horizon... i find it strange and annoying that there doesnt seem to be a set standard of help.

Emkana: If i had only one wish for my son it would be that he be happy... so irrespective of his shortcomings, he HAS the one thing that is important. I have to keep reminding myself of that whenever I feel down about this report or that report, that he doesnt feel the same way about what he should or could be doing, it doesnt bother him.
Your son sounds adorable, and a happy little chappy too. smile {hugs} XXX

Tclanger Fri 18-Jul-08 11:14:25

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QueenBhannae Fri 18-Jul-08 12:31:48

sad for you Emkana at having to talk about what your ds can't do. Maybe you could make a list of things he loves to do?
My ds (2.11) is 12-18 mths behind according to his last assessment but he can whistle beautifully!
Good luck with the help you will be getting x

Arabica Sat 19-Jul-08 20:37:53

re statementing, if you live in England, I think any parent can request one. I initiated this because DD's nursery told me they couldn't afford to meet the cost of her one to one care from their own funds and I didn't want there to be any future worries on this score. I don't think you can get a statement before a child is 2 (DD is 2 next week) but if you as a parent request one, the local education authority in England have to at least assess to see whether a statement is necessary (that's what my portate worker said).
I've got a lovely mental picture of your DS and handbag emkana!

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