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How the funeral went......

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anniebear Wed 26-Jan-05 07:59:35

It was a very sad day.

when we sat in the church there was a tape of my friends babies fave lullabies, then the order of service had the most gorgeous photo on.

I was suprised that the coffin didnt upset me as much as I expected (although were I was sitting it wasnt in veiw) it was seeing and hearing his Mum sob all the way through that was the worst, the Dad was holding their sons dummy.

The service was nice, as much as it could be if you know what I mean.

As they walked out Eric Claptons Tears In Heaven was played.

What really got to me was on walking out my friend walked right behind the coffin with her hand on it.

Really dont know how she managed it all.

life just stinks doesnt it.

Sorry to depress you all, I just feel like telling somebody about it.

Thanks again for all the support I receive on here


SoupDragon Wed 26-Jan-05 09:39:38

Angeliz Wed 26-Jan-05 09:42:48

miam Wed 26-Jan-05 09:43:46

Hugs anniebear. xxx

Bozza Wed 26-Jan-05 09:45:04

How truly awful anniebear - your poor friend.

PuffTheMagicDragon Wed 26-Jan-05 09:55:44


Kayleigh Wed 26-Jan-05 09:58:34

oh anniebear .
Hugs to you and am thinking of your poor friend. I can't even begin to imagine what she is going through.

geekgrrl Wed 26-Jan-05 10:01:22

when my dd had her heart op two of the babies in her room died. I can't imagine the utter heartbreak parents must feel.

SPARKLER1 Wed 26-Jan-05 10:06:03

You chat away if it helps. Feeling so sad for the parents. <<hugs>>>

JakB Wed 26-Jan-05 10:20:32

Annibear, that is just so, so sad I just don't know what to say. How do you get over the loss of a child? Your poor friend.

JakB Wed 26-Jan-05 10:20:32

Annibear, that is just so, so sad I just don't know what to say. How do you get over the loss of a child? Your poor friend.

Potty1 Wed 26-Jan-05 10:28:51

Your poor friend anniebear It's dreadful.

It's probably much too soon for her but there are some bereaved mums who post on Heartline message board if she needs to talk to a parent in the same situation.

ThomCat Wed 26-Jan-05 10:38:38

Oh my God, that was such a hard post to read, as I knew it would be, jesus, can't imagine, I have to stop myslef from really thinking about it too hard, it's like a protective barrier that comes up everythime I start to picture them and how they are feeling. Dear God, those poor, poor people. And all the other poor people in the world that have gone, are going and will go through the same thing. It's unbearable.

lowcalCOD Wed 26-Jan-05 10:41:34

isnt it awful> feeling so sorry for people who lose children. My aunt looked absolutley incapacitated with grief when my cousin died sges 21. she coudl barely stand and ahd to be "encouraged" to take a last look at the coffin
stil makes me blub.

YOu were very brave to go. well odne you

Merlot Wed 26-Jan-05 10:45:47

Really could do with a tears icon!

Bella23 Wed 26-Jan-05 10:49:35

Poor people, kind of puts things into perspective doesn't it!
Bless them xx

singsong Wed 26-Jan-05 11:42:04

So sorry. That really is awful

Hausfrau Wed 26-Jan-05 11:43:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

essbee Wed 26-Jan-05 12:00:55

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Tommy Wed 26-Jan-05 12:02:54

You've been a good friend to them anniebear - must have been so hard for you too.

dinosaur Wed 26-Jan-05 12:52:32

Marina Wed 26-Jan-05 12:56:06

It will mean so much to them for the rest of their lives that you were there to share their sorrow. And that they felt able to cry in your company. Hugs to you all anniebear

anniebear Wed 26-Jan-05 13:43:24

Thank you again to everyone

At the funeral I was with two friends who like me had so very nearly lost their little girls when they were babies. One turned and said "it could have so easily have been us couldnt it"

Really doesnt bare thinking about, cant imagine how anyone could carry on......but they do

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