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Insensitive Mother - better known as the DRAGON!!!!!

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JaysMumWantsaSilentNight Tue 28-Dec-04 20:24:15

Just thought I would rage here instead of continuing my anger....poor hubby has taken my wrath over the past couple of days.

My Mother is a miserable, biggoted, old witch.....
She will never accept my boys as being family....we adopted them and as far as she is concerned they are not blood shouldnt have the family name etc......

J as you know has ASD and to top the insensitive comments I have received from her over the past couple of months, she took it upon herself to send me a DVD for christmas.......

Written on the gift tag..."Thought this might help YOU UNDERSTAND. With affection. Mother xx"

The DVD......RAINMAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SantaClausfrau Tue 28-Dec-04 20:26:03

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KangaSantaMummy Tue 28-Dec-04 20:28:29


that is so awful I am lost for words

mooncrumbs Tue 28-Dec-04 20:30:09

Jaysmum, I feel for you! Blood has nothing to do with family at all IMO, I get this all the time from my inlaws, it's 'blood's thicker than water bla bla', it's a load of C**P! You and your boys are the real family, if she carries on like that you should disown her from your family! Sounds like she's the one who doesn't 'Understand'!!!

JaysMumWantsaSilentNight Tue 28-Dec-04 20:32:53

Dont worry I HATE THE COW!!!!!!....just got a call from my sis who told me the old dragon was not too amused with J's present to her.....
a copy of the book..."How to win friends and influence people"....just hope she reads it!!!!!
I just would have loved to see her face when she opened it....sis said it was like thunder!!!!!!

Socci Tue 28-Dec-04 20:46:55

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blossomgoodwill Tue 28-Dec-04 20:51:21

Oh honey that's awful
How insensitive though. You need support not added worry FFS
Love J's present to your mum though. Spot on
We must catch up soon. xxx

emmatmg Tue 28-Dec-04 20:51:26

OH MY GOD.......what a bitch!

coppertop Tue 28-Dec-04 21:03:17


I agree with Mooncrumbs. You, dh and your boys are definitely a real family. Blood has nothing to do with it.

I love the sound of J's present.

Thecattlearemerloting Wed 29-Dec-04 13:33:47

Poor you your mother sounds a real cow.

PaRumPumPumScum Wed 29-Dec-04 13:35:48

Well done, J. She sounds like she needs the book badly, JMWaSN.

pantomimEDAMe Wed 29-Dec-04 13:56:31

Jaysmum, my mother was adopted and you couldn't find a more devoted daughter if you searched five continents. How DARE your mother say these things?

Twiglett Wed 29-Dec-04 13:59:07

I hope you're sending it back with a message saying "I already do understand thank you, what we don't understand is YOU"

think the book present was classic

DelGirlsRingAreYouListening Wed 29-Dec-04 14:42:07

KateandtheElves Wed 29-Dec-04 15:00:27

That's awful.

My neice and nephew were both adopted from Korea, and while my in-laws can at times be slightly bigotted and racist (I think it's just a product of their ages), their grandchildren are all equally precious and the adopted ones are just as much family as the rest.

SantaGoesToTheGym Wed 29-Dec-04 15:05:28


SantaGoesToTheGym Wed 29-Dec-04 15:06:37

If they had a gobsmacked emoticion I would have used it.

Loved the book, is your sis in your camp ??

SantaGoesToTheGym Wed 29-Dec-04 19:18:13

I am bumping this, because, well, just because I am gob smacked.

lockets Wed 29-Dec-04 19:20:31

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terryschonkyorange Thu 30-Dec-04 10:31:43

Jaysmum, sorry your mum's being so awful/hurtful. I don't believe the 'blood is thicker than water' rubbish either. IMO being a parent is the person who clears up the vomit, does the taxi run to school every day, changes the beds, gives the hugs etc. - it has nothing to do with blood ties. She's the one who's missing out on being part of your fab family.
I love the choice of present from J

JaysMumWantsaSilentNight Thu 30-Dec-04 17:43:00

My sis is sooo on my side. She referred herself for ASD assessment when she was 24 (she is now 34)....all throughout her childhood she knew she was different....had real problems forming relationships, loads of sensory probs, problems understanding the world around her. Our demon Mother did nothing to help her....and I must admit I called my sister a weirdo and a freak a few too many times - something I am now deeply ashamed of.
My Mother would not accept any help or listen to the teaching staff at our school when they expressed their concerns. It just wasnt the done thing for my Mother to have a child labelled "not quite right"....wouldn't have looked good!!!! My sister was dx with Aspergers - although my mother will not accept the "mumbo jumbo" the doctor told my sister she has!!!!!!
I think my Mother is the original Mrs Bucket....all kippers and curtains....her life revolves around the golf club and its ladies lunches!!!!!
She made my sisters life hell and now Sis has cut ties with the old bat, Mother has moved on to me and my family.......
Well not any more...........
Quite liberating excomunicating one self from the family!!!!!!

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