DS is nearly 5 and I have been told by teacher that she wants him observed by a specialist in school as she thinks he has problems with relating to others. She has made veiled suggestions that he might be SN.
I know that there are many threads like this, but I still hope some of you will find the time to comment as I know there are many experienced mums on the subject in this section and this is really worrying me at the moment.
This is DS (sorry a bit long) and I think he?s normal?.but I am open to any advice or insight you can give as I am so used to him.
- He always understands me and members of our family perfectly and can be cheeky in his replies, but his teacher has told me that he cannot stand still in class, seems like he?s not listening and always on his own planet.
- He can be quite clumsy socially, so he?s either too shy or too forward with new kids, and I believe this is what the school has noticed as he didn?t know anybody in his class when he started.
- He was potty trained by 3, with a few accidents still happening at night.
Eats and sleeps ok.
- He is learning to read, loves books etc. always has. He?s finding writing difficult and only lately with much persuasion has started to hold his pen right. Still doesn?t like to use fork and knife and will revert to hands when not watched.
- He occasionally has huge, screaming tantrums if he doesn?t get his own way. He doesn?t get violent with people but just goes mad and this can go on for half an hour until he can do something very extreme like ripping a poster from the wall or breaking a toy if not stopped.
- He used to be scared of hairdryers and dryers in public toilets , but has grown out of it so much that now he plays with them (especially the ones in the public toilets!)
- He used to hate having his hair cut, because of fear of scissors until he was 3 - but now he will seat still and enjoy his haircut as long as he gets a sticker at the end
- He always asked why questions since he was 3, however at the time it would just be why over and over- wasn't listening to answer iyswim, but now will ask Why about something and then will make his own remarks - i.e. After I read him "The ugly ducling" story he asked: Mummy why is everybody mean to the ugly duckling? - answer: because he's different, and DS remark: "that's not fair, he's a nice duckling!"
- He shows a lot of empathy with people if he believes they are sad or not well
- he's very affectionate not just with me and dp, but also with friends little children (he will cuddle them and give them a hug when they are leaving.)
- Nursery always thought he was a star. GP thinks he's absolutely normal for his age.