I can’t cope anymore. Everything is a challenge. The moments where things are ok and I can see my lovely little boy are getting less and less it seems. I love him so much, he is so loving and innocent. But he is also an absolute nightmare.
We went for an autism assessment and they said although there’s traits he doesn’t quite meet the threshold. I’m not sure I agree. I’d never really considered adhd until something I read on here the other day but now I’m not so sure.
There are issues everywhere. Home, school, parks, other people’s houses, days out. Anywhere.
I’ll try and list some issues in the hope someone can maybe suggest what they think is going on or share some stories.
The school know there are issues and give support but have never really suggested what they think might be the problem. I wonder if they think it’s behavioural or parenting. I really don’t think it is.
- Angry outbursts not proportional to what’s happened.
- When angry can be completely out of control.
- Low self esteem
- Doesn’t want to engage with any schoolwork, mostly to do with hating writing but is actually quite bright.
- Has long term friends at school but doesn’t really make new friends easily, like at a park or something.
- Can struggle with friends as he is not as emotionally mature as them so will struggle to sort out disagreements. I have to keep a close eye in case of angry outbursts.
- No regard for any rules when angry. Will run out of class ect at school. Takes ages to calm down
- Some sensory issues, around food and clothes but these have improved a fair bit since toddler years.
- Will not talk about anything emotional. Will not tell me what’s happened if something has happened at school. Point blank will not discuss anything ever.
10. Anger is default emotion. Very rarely sad.
11. Gets obsessed with things he likes. These change every few months or so.
12. Doesn’t sit still much unless on an electronic.
13. Is very very annoying indoors. Just goes around deliberately doing things he knows will annoy people or he’s been asked not to. Then gets annoyed that he’s in trouble
14. Have to repeat instructions to him so many times.
15. Still needs a lot of help/prompting to get dressed, brush teeth ect.
16. Doesn’t like change in routine but can tolerate it. Worst thing in the world for me is when people casually tell him they’re going to meet us at the park or something, and then don’t.
17. Amazing memory. Especially for facts about things he’s interested in.
18. Enjoys talking to adults and is sociable in the sense he likes meeting his friends and craves that.
19. Very controlling. Wants everything his way and immediately starts kicking off when it’s not.
20. If he asks, for example, for me to buy him something, and I say no, he will go on and on all day, possibly even for weeks. To the point I’m driven mad by it.
22. Will sometimes ask Something as if he’s forgotten he just asked 5 mins ago. Like ‘can we go to the park’ when I had just recently explained why we couldn’t go 5 mins ago.
23. I think he takes things quite literally and doesn’t always understand sarcasm and humour. Although he does sometimes I think. He often looks at me to check if someone’s joking.
Sorry it’s so long. If anyone manages to the end, I’m grateful.