DS is 5 and I suspect possible ADHD, his Dad was diagnosed as an adult. Up until he started school I thought he was just a child who enjoyed being outdoors and was often distracted by being 3/4 and wanting to play. School have said he does have ADHD traits but they won’t assess until he’s 7.
He’s a Summer born so we started him at school when he was 5. His behaviour is very good at school, though he struggles socially, this is improving though as the months go by. He doesn’t seem to know how to join in and play with the other children, he sometimes annoys them when he thinks he’s just playing a game with them, getting too close to their face etc. He really, really struggled to learn their names, but has finally managed now.
His behaviour at home, until he started school was mostly very good. He’s got a nearly 2 year old sibling who until a few months ago he was mostly very good with, and very gentle.
Recently though his behaviour has been much worse, he constantly harasses and bullies his sibling. He hits her, not hard thank god, but enough to annoy her, he blocks her way when she’s trying to walk about. He takes toys off her when he doesn’t really want it anyway.
He is also very loving with her, and they often sit having a cuddle, but literally seconds later he’s bullying her again.
I feel a bit lost, and don’t know where to start with how to discipline him. I have started to concentrate on comforting his sister when he’s cruel, and making a big deal of giving her a lot of attention. This does work at the time, he always looks sorry and usually comes to ask if she wants a cuddle, or to offer her a toy. It makes no difference 2 mins later though. He’s back to bullying her again.
Any advice would be so gratefully received. Any websites I could have a read of etc.
Many thanks in advance!!
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WestWasnt · 19/03/2020 20:44
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