I need some advice about DS aged 6. He's autistic but most of the time you wouldn't know as he's so happy and easy going. But every now and again a window opens and you see it clear as day. This is currently happening with competition and I'm at a loss as to how to deal with it.
Basically he goes to table tennis each week and they always warm up with a game of soft ball. DS is obsessed with this game and is hyper focused on the 'winning' element of it. But he's the youngest and least skilled so that's not going to happen. Every week the entire game is a complete disaster with meltdown after meltdown. He can't cope when he's caught. He can't cope if the ball isn't passed to him, He can't cope if it is and he then has to pass it to someone else. Everyone starts shouting at him to pass and I can see full on meltdown brewing as he's overwhelmed by the need to get someone else out and all the voices shouting at him to pass. It's awful.
I've tried talking to him and he gets what I'm saying until he's in the game. I've tried to get him to sit out to avoid the upset, but this upsets him more as he desperately wants to play. I'm at a loss as to what to do. He's fine playing tag and I think that's because there isn't a clear winner. If that makes sense.
Any ideas because I dread going with him now. The other parents must think he's a complete brat.
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KanelbulleKing · 21/11/2019 14:32
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