Struggling with my 7 year old daughter

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Livvysmum816 Wed 23-Oct-19 19:47:30

So I'm feeling like the worst mum right now πŸ˜” long story short, I have a 7 year old girl awaiting a asd assessment, we have been trying to get help for a long time now and I felt like nobody would listen and take us seriously, but a few weeks ago we had to have her admitted to hospital for her own safety she was basically using her head to break out of a patio door, was hyperventilating and we just couldn't calm the situation and since then we are moving forward with getting some help and hopefully a diagnosis ( been told to expect at least a year)
But the reason I'm feeling so bad we have just booked her in with a childminder one day a week (sat) to give us (hubby, older daughter and son) some time together as we never get any quality time with them, but why do I feel so guilty about it, I'm beating myself up thinking I'm failing my daughter but we just need a break 😭

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PalaceResident Wed 23-Oct-19 20:34:29

Please stop beating yourself up, self care is essential so you can give your daughter 100%.

LightTripper Thu 24-Oct-19 10:33:10

I think what you're doing is fine: but maybe alternate the childminder with looking after DD or your other two, so you get some 1 on 1 time with DD as well as with your other DD and DS? Otherwise she might feel a bit left out (but maybe DD is getting 1 on 1 time in other ways!!)

But as Palace says, it's hard to find something that works for DC with different neurotypes all the time, so I think it's fair enough to do things separately some of the time so you can meet everybody's needs (including your own!)

Ellie56 Fri 25-Oct-19 23:00:42

You are not failing your daughter. You need to do this for your other children and for your own mental health.

If you crack up you will be no good to anyone. Please stop beating yourself up.

Take care of yourself first and then you will be able to care for everyone else. flowers

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