My SD is nearly 10. She doesn't live with me and DH but we have regular contact. She's always come across as quirky and I've always thought there's something about her that's just a bit different. Her mum had also previously mentioned she thinks she might have ASD and said she's pursuing an assessment. When we've asked about the result of it since she's ignored the topic which makes us think she's not gone ahead with the assessment after all. Her son (from previous relationship-SDs brother) has Aspergers-diagnosed. I'm looking for others experience so that we can have an indication whether some of the behaviours she displays may be ASD.
For example:
She's very clumsy, legs covered with bruises.
Fear of heights. This includes stairs (not even that high!). Not long ago we went to water park and she only wanted to go down the small slide which the security said she's banned from as it's for under 5s only! She never tried any of the bigger slides, most of which weren't that high at all.
Doesn't seem to realise consequences at times. E.g. Me and DH have had a baby and when we let her hold him we reiterated how careful she needs to be, she can't let go etc. Well she very nearly dropped him and didn't seem to have any regard for it. As in, didn't seem worried or cared. Just sort of laughed.
When we're in social situations she doesn't interact well with other kids and saying "like a fish out of the water" comes to mind. She often sits by herself separately from other kids in this sort of situation despite us trying to make her included.
She often ignores instructions, particularly if we're telling her not to do something.
Doesn't seem to have much consideration for others feelings. For example, would step on her dads feet on purpose.
When taking photos she'll purposely look elsewhere not at the camera.
Her mum and my DH and I all agree she acts much younger than her age.
She comes out with some unusual things which makes me think her mind works in a different way as I've never met anyone like her.
DH says she was a 'very good baby'. Very easy, would be happy just sat watching TV for ages, didn't cry or fuss much at all.
She is also very chatty, seeks lots of cuddles. She gets excited about a day out and trying new things but often when we arrive where we had planned to go she becomes uncomfortable and just wants to sit with DH and I as opposed to enjoying herself (e.g. At a play park). She watches my DD who's the same age making friends with strangers (kids) and instead of joining in sits with us.
She's fine at parks she's familiar with and been to many times. She seems to have friends at school.
Reason why I'm posting is I think knowing she might have ASD would help us manage her behaviour better. We wouldn't want to label some of her behaviour as naughty if she can't help it so to say. Or continue with encouraging her to make friends etc if it's ASD that's stopping her and not confidence for example.
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Lunchpacker · 24/06/2019 09:00
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