I guess this is fairly common. DS is 2.5 and on the diagnostic pathway for ASD. We should get a diagnosis at his psych evaluation in July.
He recently started at nursery, and while it hasn't been terrible it also shows up social defecits. I had seen them for a long time in the preceding 18 months attending playgroup but had never been sure how much of that was because I was there too.
I started paving the way for telling grandparents about ASD by saying DS was a bit behind with social skills, and giving specific details when DH's mum picked up on the tone and fished for more detail.
She then phoned DH to "get the full story" and DH gave her brief reassurance and said more detail forthcoming from me - but she has blanked me completely since then - despite me sending her emails containing the full details of what we had seen and where it was all heading. She doesn't answer her phone to me (FIL never has).
On reflection, MIL and FIL have always been very judgemental and disparaging about disability. They quite like blaming mothers, and have in the past made pretty judgemental comments about the fact I was hopeless at getting DS to eat or sleep properly. This was accompanied by comments that they didn't see why DH should disrupt his routine to help just because I am incompetent.
So I guess the ASD is all my fault. Couldn't possibly come from their side too (DH and FIL both have a lot of traits; I have a diagnosis, my parents also have traits).
Has anyone ever had things improve from this kind of standoff?
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letsgooutstiiiiiiide · 02/06/2019 00:59
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