DS is 2.5. Possibly has ASD, unclear, is having SALT sessions around play skills, and has just started at Montessori kindergarten.
It is very difficult to get him to do things like puzzles, building towers, jigsaw puzzles, games etc. This obviously means at Montessori he ends up "helping the teacher" because he lacks the skills to sit down and work through something by himself, or engage with another child.
I don't think this is because he lacks the cognitive skill to actually do the puzzles - when we do things together he e.g. can play dominoes correctly for a few turns before throwing them all off the table (so can obviously count to 6, even if the turn-taking mystifies him), he can tell me where to put a Charlie and Lola domino; and he could do shape sorter puzzles before age 1. He loved watching me do a 200-piece puzzle recently, and picked up pieces saying "that's part of the polar bear" or "those are the planets".
When we've had a playdate where another child has sat down and biddably worked through all our puzzles he has glanced over and said things like "the brain goes on the skull" (layered body jigsaw), "the koala goes in that hole" (picture-in-hole puzzle), "the four candles hold up the square" (peg shapes puzzle) "the crane piece goes over here and the fish piece is on the edge" (Thomas jigsaws). THe other child built towers with blocks beautifully - DS just wanted to knock them down (and then got furious because I told him off).
But e.g. me saying "let's build a tower with the blocks!" - he will be chucking the blocks round the room rather than try to build anything. Likewise Lego. And dominoes are thrown off the table, Thomas jigsaws are thrown at the walls, he gets grumpy and wants me to put them away...
So he seems to have the spatial and pattern-matching skills, but absolutely none of the sequencing or turn-taking or self-regulation required to actually engage with anything.
All the kids at Montessori are so self-contained and seem to have such amazing sequencing and self-regulation skills - even if they can't actually do the thing in front of them, they patiently work through it. Whereas DS seems to see instantly how to do it, then refuse to actually see it through. Which of course will do him absolutely no favours whatsoever at school or in real life!
Obviously I'm trying to work on this with the SALT, but any suggestions here?
BTW his imaginative play is fine. Pet dinosaurs go exploring, take trips on aeroplanes, go to the moon etc. Stuffed toys look at things on trips out and "comment" on stuff.
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letsgooutstiiiiiiide · 11/05/2019 02:37
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