I love Luke Jacksons motto "Different is cool. Why can't other people see it that way?
For instance today I parked up to take dd into the hairdressers and where we live there is a home for adults with learning difficulties. There was a couple in their 20's who had ld. Anyway I could see a group of men sniggering and I just thought what a nasty world we live in. They weren't harming anyone but people can't help having a dig.
I am sick of people asking if dd is 'better yet' - she has CP, it's not going away! after dh went into the office after dd's first physiotherapy someone asked if she it had worked and she is better now. GRRRR. Asking if your little one will be 'normal' is just plain rude.
People dont mean any harm though do they???? Do you think they they are just uneducated about difference and disabilty and are just trying to say the right thing.....?! I dont know, just thinking out loud.
Ive had comments like 'its a shame' and 'oh how sad' and the biggy is ' I just dont knoe how you do it, I couldnt do it' I have worked with children and adults with disabilities and I always thought that if im totoally honest.
Another is 'god chosses special mums for special chidlren' and whilst I know people are trying to fill an awkward silence i find that so patronising, maybe im being a bit harsh there...!
My ds1 has Spina Bifida, and I'm often asked if his back is better yet!!!!! Or, "He's not still in nappies, is he?" (He's 3, so it wouldn't be unusual if he didn't have SB, surely!). I just feel sorry for their ignorance and lack of tact (All of this is usually said in front of ds - after all, if his legs don't work properly, that'll affect his ears!!!).
I get told all the time....Louis couldn't have a better mummy!!! hmmmm little do they know how it really is. Although im feeling positive now I know next week Ill hit a major slump next week and feel all sorry for myself and 'why us'. I know people mean well but I would prefer to hear .....aint life a bitch sometimes but you gotta just get on with it cos no-on else will. Cant argue with that can i