How to get DD, 9, to shower after swimming without massive row. I need some new ideas does anyone have any?
We have tried:
Rewards
Removing things e.g. toys, anything she currently likes, all returned after she's showered or next day.
Giving her a time frame to do it in and then reward of her choice. E.g game, reading, anything except screen time.
Asking her how she wants to do it - we don't get beyond don't want to or she will just walk off mid discussion, it demand a screen, which i don't want to give before bed time.
We've got angry, stayed jolly...
Different things work, nothing consistently works. We try things for a while before trying something new.
We can't just leave it, she also has a soiling problem and regularly stinks of poo, this is when we insist. We explain why, she says she doesn't care.
Tonight i was kicked when i went to take something out of her room. The thing that worked tonight was the threat of not doing her activity after school tomorrow, and that's only because it's a new activity.
She has called me a bitch, says she hates me. Now she's showered, she's being lovely and sweet and written me a letter to say sorry.
This isn't new, this is all the time, with practically every boundary that we try to enforce. We are shattered and I just want to cry.
Any ideas gratefully received
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StarsShineBrightly · 17/01/2019 21:31
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