Bit of background.
My wee boy is nearly 5 and I've always struggled with him, especially when compared to his twin sister who is flying ahead for her age, and felt something wasn't right. His nursery is amazing and have always listened to my concerns, but he always got better through term but would go back the way over holidays etc.
Finally admitted I was really worried about him starting school next year and his teachers agreed. I couldn't fault how quickly everything happened. The next day we had a referral form sent along with my 2 page list of concerns, and within 2 weeks I had a meeting with the early years team, who also came to see me at home and observe him at nursery, and an appointment through to see the pead 2 weeks after that. Who shares my concerns and has put him forward for ASD assessment. Also it was agreed at the school meeting that he would benefit from a provision to ease him into school and early years also want me to do a dla claim in the hope of getting a blue badge as getting him in and out the car when he doesn't want to, or I've not gone where he expected can be a nightmare.
So I'm thrilled. I feel justified that I'm not just a crap parent and relieved he is getting the support he needs.
My partner on the other hand has it in his head that he has a adhd needs a course of Ritalin and a firm telling. He isn't accepting the asd part at all. And fighting me everystep of the way.
He told the pead who's been seeing kids like our boy for 30 years that she's just fobbing us off.
He says it's criminal to do a dla because he's not disabled.
He doesn't want him diagnosed because of the legal implications of the mental health act. He's job means he sees the worst of the legal system, and therefore made him really negative.
He doesn't want him to attend the provision as he sees it as him being segregated from his peers and worried about him being stigmatised and bullies by his peers.
Yet when our son kicks off he is the first to say "I can't deal with that" and storms off!!
His mums a bit better but I don't think she's convinced on the ASD front either and although open to the provision etc, she is firmly in the adhd camp. Which I'm not saying isn't a possibility but I believe the ASD is one too!
I just feel so backed into a corner when I thought I was finally getting somewhere! Will it ever get any better?!
Thanks for reading the saga! Xx
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meandermum · 08/11/2018 15:15
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