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Emabarassing ASD son who has absolutely no filter

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Storminateacup74 Tue 13-Mar-18 22:30:21

My son is 9.5 and has ASD. He is a born entertainer he with the most amazing sense of humour and he loves to make people laugh. He also has no inhibitions, doesn't know what embarrassment is, doesn't ever get nervous and has no filter. He is always embarrassing people and offending people (children and adults!!). He says what he means and what he believes. He has very strong opinions on things and is very sure about certain things and woe betide anyone who doesn't have the same views as him!!! My husband and daughter will not go out with us anymore. This isn't a new thing it has been going on for years and I have become really thick skinned about it but these last few weeks I am beginning to find it really hard to deal with and feel that I am being judged. How ever much I try to tell him it is inappropriate he goes in to full on shouting, screaming and destructing mode as he doesn't think he has done anything wrong!! How do other people handle the embarrassment and no filter factor???

Allthewaves Wed 14-Mar-18 21:42:30

Mines not as bad. Eldest has adhd and younger ones asd. I usually give them the look and tell them it's not appropriate. Then have another chat about how it's rude to discuss people weight, skin condition etc. Mine.just look at me.confused tbh I'm not sure how in would cope with explosions.

Do you think handed out asd cards would help so at least people would understand the reason that he's seemingly being rude in these situations.

Allthewaves Wed 14-Mar-18 21:43:50

The you wouldn't have to.say anything there and then to him avoiding the explosions then ty and broach it later at home.

Social stories can be very good. Used them with eldest when he would tell.gat people they were fat - loudly

Saturdayselling Fri 23-Mar-18 03:42:39

There's also a comic book method of explaining other people's emotions. You draw stick figures in a comic strip style way, showing him what happened, and then layer on the thoughts. So you could ask him what he thought and put it ina thought bubble, and then put in what you or the other person thought. Don't tell him off with it, just use it to help him understand more about others' experiences.

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