DD is 12. She was diagnosed with ASD last year after a long battle with the GP to get a referral.
She has huge anxiety about change, hates people breaking the rules and is very introverted. Her social skills are awful and hitting the pre teen era has been extremely hard for her.
10 days ago I got a call from her on the way to school to say another girl had punched her in the face. It hard started after this other girl had dragged a chair up the hill from the church and then told DD she wasn't to touch it. DD touched it with her finger and laughed so the other girl punched her. School were notified immediately and they looked after DD and calmed her down, put an ice pack on her marked face. The other girl was put in isolation for the afternoon that day.
Incident two was at lifeguard training when the intermediate group (DD's group) had been responsible for putting on a swimming gala for the adults and little rookies to take part in. At the end of it DD was writing out certificates and one or two of the other kids were rocking the table. She got very angry and lashed out and hit another child on the arm. I wasn't there (at home with a stinking cold), DP was getting changed after swimming and all I have to go on are three different reports (DD, swimming coach and another parent) which all vary slightly.
Then on Friday last week I get another call from school to say that DD had slapped a boy across the face. They had seemingly been lining up to leave the classroom to go back to their own class and this boy was pushing her, jostling her and tried to take her pencil case off her. Eventually she snapped (in her words, her face went all tingly and she got very, very angry) and slapped him. She was utterly distraught afterwards and dp went to collect her from school as she was in no fit state to walk home. School will be deciding what to do today as it was school finish time on Friday.
She is such an angry girl, really hates lots of talking, noise and people preventing her from doing what she is meant to be doing. In her eyes she did nothing wrong and it was the boys fault because he was mucking about and annoying her and wouldn't stop. I told her that she mustn't hit out physically but walk away but in this case she was unable to do that because they were to line up and stay there. In her head she must stay in the line and not leave it until told to. I have no idea where the teacher was at this point btw.
I have rung Autism Wessex this morning but no one is there so left a message. I am terrified of my DD becoming the child who is always getting into fights. She is incredibly bright academically and loves her sport but she is struggling so much with the social side of things and I have no idea how to help her.
I have tried talking to her but she just closes down, puts her hands over her ears and walks away. When she doesn't want to know something, she will literally just refuse to listen.
Really struggling here, I am dreading a call to say she has seriously hurt someone but really don't know where to turn.
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