Just spoke to deputy head who called me in response to my e mail to the head. The "doesn't look autistic" teaching is going to be spoken to. The "Disrespectful" teacher was defended by the DH but he agreed it wasn't good enough and the school needs to address the fact that not all teachers know the pupils needs despite profiles being sent to everyone. This is the disadvantage of being at a large school.
Yes, the same thought is occurring to me now about moving schools. There are other reasons I thought the school would be a good fit for her, but things are not panning out how I'd imagined. I have sent e mails to the Head.