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"Doesn't look autistic"

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1805 Mon 04-Dec-17 19:00:39

Just had parents evening and still, a teacher said this to me about my daughter. How can it be possible in this day and age not to know the basics about autism?

youarenotkiddingme Mon 04-Dec-17 19:33:57

Did you not use the phrase “well you don’t look like an ignorant twat - but hey ho” grin

Ellie56 Mon 04-Dec-17 21:07:28

youarenotkiddingme grin grin

Stupid teacher. WTF does autistic look like?

1805 Mon 04-Dec-17 21:41:11

I suggested she read a book about the autism spectrum.

BlackeyedSusan Tue 05-Dec-17 00:03:19

autistic, dunno? suppose they think sits in a corner and rocks..

but no, that is just the parents, after they have had to deal with schools ignorance yet again.

1805 Thu 07-Dec-17 17:17:59

OMG - now dd was called disrespectful by a teacher for not answering when she was being spoken to. This was after being sent out of a lesson because she wasn't (couldn't) doing the work.

BlackeyedSusan Thu 07-Dec-17 17:43:17


teacher is a fucking idiot.

1805 Thu 07-Dec-17 18:15:12

Just a phone call from school responding to my e mail I wrote...

Ellie56 Thu 07-Dec-17 18:49:04

I think you should make an appointment to speak to the headteacher about this teacher . She clearly needs some training.

Does your daughter have an EHCP? What support does she actually get?

1805 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:06:47

Just spoke to deputy head who called me in response to my e mail to the head. The "doesn't look autistic" teaching is going to be spoken to. The "Disrespectful" teacher was defended by the DH but he agreed it wasn't good enough and the school needs to address the fact that not all teachers know the pupils needs despite profiles being sent to everyone. This is the disadvantage of being at a large school.

1805 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:08:58

DH refers to Deputy Head, not Darling Husband by the way!!!

Ellie56 Thu 07-Dec-17 19:58:13

Sounds like the whole school could do with some training on autism. If it is a large school, it is highly likely there are other ASD children there too who don't "look autistic." hmm

Didiplanthis Wed 13-Dec-17 17:54:32

Our Head walked past DS in full meltdown this afternoon actively looking away without stopping to ask if he was ok or if I needed help. He was on the floor sobbing. He NEVER melts down at school.

1805 Wed 13-Dec-17 22:47:06

Didiplanthis I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you managed to calm your ds down ok.
I wish every school had at least one person in the senior team who really understands ASD.

1805 Thu 14-Dec-17 23:36:16

today apparently she was told she was "sulking like a 3 year old"


Ellie56 Thu 14-Dec-17 23:57:16

Was it the same teacher who said she "doesn't look autistic" who said this?

1805 Fri 15-Dec-17 10:30:32

Ellie56 - No. that's 3 comments, from 3 teachers, in 6 school days - that dd has told me about. I can't help but wonder how often comments like this happen.

Ellie56 Fri 15-Dec-17 20:36:09

I would be wondering if this was the right school for her.

After I'd written a very strong letter of complaint about their disability discrimination.

1805 Fri 15-Dec-17 22:46:07

Yes, the same thought is occurring to me now about moving schools. There are other reasons I thought the school would be a good fit for her, but things are not panning out how I'd imagined.
I have sent e mails to the Head.

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