He is 8 and has fecal incontinence. This has been all his life and he is seeing a paediatrician to try and get to the source/get it sorted. Not sure if relevant but DS also has SEN. He wears pull ups and he struggles to clean himself properly when he Is changing himself (I’m working on this btw) so he always requires me to help him. In some public toilets we can manage as the cubicles are quite generous in size but as he gets bigger I’m finding it harder and harder to do. I haven’t felt comfortable using disabled toilets as he doesn’t have a blue badge but if there was a pass he could get it would make life a lot easier when out. Is this possible and how would I go about getting this?
Disability. It really is. Especially if children his age, usually don't need that level of help.
Honestly, you're absolutely justified and shouldn't give it another moment of thought.
I'm a toilet policewoman and you can find me chastising people everywhere for their 'obvious' use of disabled toilets without a disability.....
Only if I'm sure of course, -many disabilities are hidden. Things that make me sure are things like announcements i.e. when someone says 'Well, I'm not standing in this queue when the disabled loo is empty!' That kind of thing.
So if you've won me over, you're good to go...... lol!
Agree with Star, but to add, please don't but a cheap Radar key off Amazon or eBay, they have been known to break or get stuck in locks and this means other people in need can't use the toilets. Please buy an official key from radarkeys,org, your local council or Disability Rights UK.
Oh god I hadn’t even thought of him getting older and being unwelcome in the ladies! So far people haven’t really (to my knowledge) mindedness but of course that will come as he grows. Especially as he doesn’t “appear” disabled. Thank you Zzzz And thanks polter for the pointer.
Keeping an eye on the future is a great plan. For example ds last school insisted on tucked in shirts. He now obsesses and frets about it being tucked “right”. Fine at 10/12 but it does look like he’s constantly touching himself. It won’t be fine at 16/18.. SO difficult.
I think I’ve been so caught up in managing day by day I hadn’t even thought of him in 8 years time. What is currently tolerated because he is a little boy won’t be in a few short years. Thank zzzz you’ve been really helpful.