How do you deal with it? What do you say to your child?
DS is nearly 7. Was referred to CAMHs and OT towards the end of the last school year for sensory processing and social communication issues, and we have our first appointments for both next month. He's a lovely, bright, friendly little chap but has always been extremely highly strung, and we're struggling to help him understand that he can't control other people's behaviour but he can control how he reacts.
Today was a perfect example. He loves building, engineering and Lego, and this morning he and DH built a functioning lock (as in canal lock) out of Lego, and wanted to take it to a park with a sand pit and water pump to test it out. So off we went, and he had a lovely few hours playing with it and his little Lego boat. Then a boy of about DS's age arrived, announced that he didn't like what DS was doing and stamped on the sand dam DS had built, destroying it and flooding the Lego lock. DS immeadiately started howling, and while DH and I were trying to calm him the boy started dismantling the Lego. DS was totally inconsolable; sobbing and screaming for ages. The boy didn't seem to care, and the woman he was with (presumably his mother) kept looking over at DS, shaking her head and rolling her eyes.
This isn't the first time something like this has happened. But how do we deal with it? How can we make DS understand that some people will behave in ways he doesn't like, and help him to control his emotions in these situations?
Sorry if I'm a bit rambley. DS is fast asleep and for him it's long forgotten, but I still feel upset on his behalf. I feel like life is going to be hard for him as the world is full of arseholes and his emotions are so big and raw.
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Mrsfrumble · 21/10/2017 22:04
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