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being given newspaper articles

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scrabble1 Sat 14-Oct-17 18:03:21

Just got back from visiting MIL and she has once again given me an article from the daily mail about ADHD. It's very offensive as it says medication alters young people's brains and it's poor parenting that is the problem.

Marshmallow09er Sat 14-Oct-17 19:34:00

Oh scrabble my MIL does this too (Daily Mail clippings).

So many times I’ve felt I’ve explained to her why I don’t agree (with frankly anything the DM says, although especially on autism). Each time I feel like I’ve got through to her - but the next time I go invariably she gives me another one.

I think she thinks she’s being helpful...

Now I just take them and use them under the cat’s litter tray / put them in the bin when I get home - I never read them.

zzzzz Sat 14-Oct-17 23:11:13

One of my relatives lent me a book about curing brain damage through positive attitude, in the middle of a family party surrounded by my children. She meant it kindly. Ds doesn’t, as far as I know, have the brain damage, at that stage he didn’t even have a dx. He does now it ASD (and he is high functioning).
Lots of people send me “helpful articles” or tell me about them. It makes me cry. I have no idea how to receive these strangely unkind gifts. Do they imagine I don’t know much about ds’s challenges? Are they trying to semaphore that they care and are “keeping an eye out”?

I hate it, and I’m sorry your MIL is being so hurtful.

scrabble1 Sun 15-Oct-17 10:40:32

he takes Intuniv and it has changed his life. He can now have chance at being calm enough for social situations and has gone from being constantly in trouble to receiving a commendation from the head of year. I don't tell her these things though as wasting my breath

StarlightMcKenzee Mon 16-Oct-17 08:15:46

Medication isn't something you do to change your child or their brain, - it is something you take to enable your brain to be calm enough to learn, with a view, perhaps, to learning the skills to manage difficulties without medication.

But unless the medication is taken, you can't concentrate long enough to develop the skills to have a choice often.

StarlightMcKenzee Mon 16-Oct-17 08:17:11

I get newspaper articles too. About autism being caused by living near London, watching TV, not breastfeeding, having too many plastic toys, not being talked to enough, not cuddling enough.

I don't read them any more, but chuck them in the recycling as soon as they arrive.

scrabble1 Mon 16-Oct-17 11:26:50

I'm seriously considering limiting contact. It was done in front of our son while he was playing in the same room. I just said no thanks I've read it and changed the subject

FuckShitJackFairy Tue 24-Oct-17 16:12:24

She's an ideot.

But actual the consesus is that adhd medications alter brain development-in the best way possible. As brain development is use dependant and the correct adhd meds enable a child to focus and organise their thoughts then using these meds mean that the neurological connections in areas of the brain that deal with focus/organisation/short term memory has an opportunity to improove if these meds are used pver a period of time during childhood. Tell her that. &ignore dm shite.

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