Hi,
I posted this in the step-parenting board and they suggested I post here
I need some pointers on coping with my DSS1.
Hes 7, 8 at the end of the year. He was diagnosed with autism about 4 years ago, and I have been a fixture in his life for about 3 years now.
He is just such hard work and I don't know what to do anymore. There is also DSD whos 9 and DSS2 whos 4 and they are no trouble but they act up around DSS1 as he is always trying to hit them etc.
He is obsessed with screens, the iPad, the PS4 etc. We limit his time on these things, but the second theres no screens he goes mental, keeps screaming about how bored he is, he will then go and take his frustration out on the other 3 (the 2 others sc's and my ds who is 6) he would play the iPad 24 hrs a day if he could. The other day he scratched the screen in frustration at a game and cracked it, I said that he cannot play it again, and now he moans for it the whole time he is with us (eow and night in the week)
I do love him but I don't like him and I feel so mean because I know it isnt his fault. I adore my other 2 sc's, and often take them places without him because I just cant cope with him. The other day I took them all swimming and DSS1 refused to get in the pool, then started throwing floats at other random children in the pool and screaming, splashing etc, the lifeguards made me get him out.
My DH has his head firmly stuck in the sand, when DSS1 has hurt one of the other dc or been rude to me or just generally done something horrible he just says 'its his autism' consequently, DSS1 doesnt get disciplined for doing things that the other dc would get punished for.
I am concious that DSS1 has begun to notice I feel differently about him than the others. He can be a lovely boy too, he gives hugs and the other day told me he loved me. I just want to be the best sm I can be and I feel like I'm failing with him. I don't want him to dislike me.
Any helpful tips?
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