My son is in year 5 he has a diagnosis of autism and developmental Co ordination disorder.
I'm trying to get a statement of sen setup as he has severe anxiety in class and on the yard which are causing outbursts of anger and swearing and the school have said if he swears in school he will be sent home. It feels like they are gearing up for expulsion. He doesn't swear at home but I spend a lot of time managing his behavior and dealing with triggers so he won't have the extreme reactions he has in school.
He had an appointment on Tuesday and met with the educational psychologist for an emergency review. My son was asked about his home life and his father. He said that he wishes he had a better relationship with his dad, that he drinks a lot and when he drinks he swears at him but he didn't want to talk about it anymore because he didn't want anyone going to prison. When I went to meet with the school that afternoon I was pulled into the headmasters office and told that my son had said some very disturbing things and he would have to report it to social services. I was really shocked, my husband likes a drink on the weekend but nothing out of the ordinary, they clash a lot but my son thinks his dad hates him when he doesn't at all they just butt heads a lot. We are a normal functioning family, I feel that my sons view of his father is jaded because they clash so much. He can be very black and white about things, if my husband tells him off it means he's bullying him etc
To be honest when I spoke to the headmaster I was in shock and said tgat they do clash but said nothing about the drinking part. When I spoke to the headmaster later he said he had phoned social services but said no action would be taken as I've admitted that they do clash and I've been co operative about getting my son the support he needs. The headmaster said we would continue to meet with the educational psychologist next week but not to mention the accusations to my son as they were worried that he wouldn't open up on their next meeting if I interfere. He said oh this is what has come out so far. I'm worried they are actively looking to portray us as bad parents instead of dealing with my sons educational needs. I spoke to my sons therapist who I pay privately, she has been working with him for months and said she had no concerns about my sons welfare and she was concerned at the direction this was taking. Have any of you been in this kind of situation?
I did speak to my son and explained what had happened. It took a while to calm him down and explain that no we weren't upset with him for saying it but we needed to talk about why he said it. My son said that the words came out wrong and that's why he didn't want to talk about it anymore. He did say he thought his dad drank too much and he didn't like being around him when he's had a drink, even though I don't think his dad having a drink on the weekend is an issue, it's obviously an issue for my son. I don't think he should not have a drink on the weekend but I think we are going to have to wait until he is in bed before he/we have a drink.
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Catherine2255 · 02/07/2017 23:29
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