I hope it's OK to post here as she hasn't been diagnosed with anything but I'm really struggling and was hoping for an understanding response. She has always been difficult but it is getting harder as she gets older.
She has no language issues, actually the opposite. I think her speech has always been quite advanced for her age. But she does repeat a lot. She repeats things she hears, and she also repeats sentences she says herself over and over and over again. That can be frustrating but isn't the issue. I'm just mentioning in case it's relevant.
The main problem is, she just says no to everything and has tantrums and cries and hits. Not always but this has been increasing and increasing.
So for example, nappy changes (she isn't potty trained. We've tried but had zero success and a very messy floor despite her showing all the signs of readiness from 18 months). I will say, it's time to do your nappy. She will say no. I'll go to get her and put her on the mat, she starts running in a circle round the room and eventually hides behind a chair or table. I'll try and pick her and she'll scream and wriggle to make it hard to hold her. I'll lie her down on her mat and she'll often scream more and kick out, cry, try and pull the nappy off. It's the same with getting dressed. Running, away, screaming, crying, kicking, wriggling, pulling the clothes off. I hate seeing her so distressed but I don't want to stay in the house all day or leave her sitting in a dirty, smelly nappy. If we are going out (usually somewhere fun for her like the park or fair or a playgroup), she'll do the running around in a circle thing and say she doesn't want to go out. Once we are out the door she's usually fine.
She often seems in her own world and will ignore when we call her by name. Her hearing has been tested and is fine. She has a very limited diet. She isn't underweight but she just won't try foods. She ate most things when she was weaning but gradually refused more and more. Now she eats a very specific type of ready made shop bought pasta, bread and different bread products, very occasionally she will eat cheese, sliced apples and sometimes pears if they are sliced. She would eat crisps, biscuits and chocolate all the time but I try and keep them limited.
I don't know how to explain this one but when she is very emotional in a happy way, mostly when she's looking at or stroking one of our cats, she does thing where she clenches her jaw and sort of shakes. She doesn't do it when angry only when happy. She does it when looking at me sometimes in a loving way. It's like she can't control it.
When we are out she often won't walk with me and will run off. Or she'll sit down on the pavement and not move. She will do this again and again. If she's in the buggy she shouts at me to stop pushing it, or if I go a different route she gets really distressed and shouts at me to go the other way. When we are in the park or where ever and I say it's time to go, she will run away. She seems to spend a lot of time running in circles.
Sorry if this is long. I don't think I've mentioned everything and maybe this is all normal but she doesn't seem like my friends children. They might have a tantrum every so often but will mostly do as they are told whereas she has a crying fit over everything. And she doesn't seem to play with other children the way I see them play together. Although she is still quite young, but she doesn't seem to know how to/want to join in. The excepting being if they are not running she likes chasing/being chased. But she will mostly just run in a circle. Oh and she's scared/disturbed by certain noises, but seems obsessed with them at the same time.
Maybe I'm useless but I'm really struggling to cope. Everything is a battle. Everything. All I ever want to do is take her out and have a nice time with her but the fighting to get dressed makes us late everywhere, and it tires me out. And I dread when it's time to leave because I know there'll be more tears, more running. She doesn't need much sleep so I feel like I'm always tired. Yesterday I was crying because I just couldn't take anymore. This morning she was the same and in tears screaming, kicking and crying while dh and I got her dressed. I'm just so tired but worried maybe it's me that is the problem and i don't know if it's something to see a doctor about or not. I just feel physically and mentally drained.
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