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Need help please(7 Posts)
Do you want to consider a dx? How long has your daughter been having difficulties for?
I wouldn't put too much store in what the Ed Psych said about formal dx. It's about your child - I can only speak for my eldest who was dx with ASD when he was 3, but at 11 having a dx brings him an enormous sense of relief, as it helps him understand why he finds certain things difficult compared to his classmates.
In your position I would look a getting a thorough assessment. Here it would be accessed via the children's development centre, which usually requires a GP referral. Other areas it's the mental health service.
If my daughter were threatening to kill herself, the risk of her killing herself would far outweigh in my mind any consideration for the school or the risk of harm from being labelled! All behaviour is communication - what is she trying to communicate? Is there a problem at school, like she has undiagnosed SEN and can't cope or is she being bullied; or are there other things going on her life at the back of this?
I would be seeking help for her from mental health professionals - school staff are not trained in mental health problems, and anyway, they only see her in a structured setting for about 6 hours a day, while she is under your care for 18 hours a day.
The school are threatening exclusions, your DD refuses to work, refuses to go into school, refuses to engage with staff, wants to kill herself and them, the EP thinks a formal diagnosis is not worthwhile if the school can cope and thinks it could potentially be more harmful to be labelled.
The school are not coping with your DD.
Your DD is not coping with school.
The EP is wrong on all counts. <-- this is being polite.
If you are concerned about the possibility of SEN then you should get a referral to the appropriate services either through your GP or through the school, CAMHS would be the appropriate service for the threats to kill herself and teachers and a referral can be through the GP.
Was the ed psych involvement instigated by the school? or was it a private request? What do the school think is going on? What Support have the school put in place to help your DD?
When DS was 9 he expressed a desire to be dead and wished that he had never been born, he threatened a particular member of staff and was immediately given a fixed term exclusion, the thing was that it was not the first time, he already had a diagnosis and involvement from CAMHS, OT, Physio, MABS, specialist teacher advisor etc, the school had been saying "we are coping, we are managing" it was DS who was not coping or managing and until the school said "we cannot cope"nobody else took it seriously enough.
He is much much better now.
Off to work shortly but I will come back later and answer more fully but just wanted to say that as school becomes more pressurised in yr5/6 this is the point where things become more difficult for kids and they can begin to unravel.
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