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Feeling shut out, struggling....

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Blossom4538 Tue 09-May-17 19:29:30

I feel so sad, DD seems to be losing friends. She is often on her own at playtime.
Her closest friend left her during lunchtime whilst eating today (they always sit together) - to go and sit with her new friend. DD was heartbroken.

Yesterday, she couldn't find her friend and no-one would let her play, so she just collected stones from the playground.

I feel some of the Mums are now blanking me even and DD is hardly ever invited to parties anymore. She does struggle with them slightly though.

I just feel like all I am posting at the moment is depressing posts (sorry) - I feel so upset and like I can't do it anymore. I need a few days and typically, have the busiest hectic weeks coming up.
I hate the way things are at the moment. I've just been repeatedly kicked by my DD (hard) - for blowing my nose. She hates the sound. I do go elsewhere in the house.

I can't be a good parent and support her well enough when I'm this exhausted and emotional.

Blossom4538 Wed 10-May-17 09:46:30

I feel ill this morning with red, puffy eyes from all the crying last night and 3 hours sleep. Such a busy day too. I feel sick.
Helped that H and I had a chat last night, albeit at midnight....

readyornot2011 Wed 10-May-17 11:15:57

It is hard, but great that DD is in school and manageing. That at least gives you some time....
honestly if I could make myself believe that that would happen for my son I'd be able to cope with everything else....
But with no speech, anxiety and living abroad in autism unfriendly france so school will be in another language. I can't see any positives now either. It's hard

Blossom4538 Wed 10-May-17 15:00:10

I'm so sorry, feel for you. Hugs.

Imaginosity Wed 10-May-17 16:13:00

I know how you feel. For the first two years when DS started school I was completely heartbroken by the friendship issues. I remember seeing all the other children going on playdates - DS was only rarely asked, kind of as a charity thing I think - and I felt too awkward to ask others as I felt their children wouldn't be jumping at the chance to play with DS. I've got used to it largely now as DS is very happy with things. I wish he had a group of friends though as I worry about what type of life he will have. Maybe at secondary school he'll some likeminded people, or maybe not.

I try to focus on making DS's life as full and as interesting as possible.

If you're feeling depressed maybe talk to a GP. I found anti- depressants made things a bit less bleak.

What age is your daughter?

Blossom4538 Wed 10-May-17 22:07:46

You've totally described how I feel. Today felt a little better but my v up and down.

Dd is almost 6.

Imaginosity Thu 11-May-17 01:07:23

Are you sure the other parents or actually blanking you - or is it that they tend to be friendly and make an effort to talk to the parents of children that their children play with. I used to feel quite ignored by some parents but figured out that some of them simply don't think to chat to me as our children aren't friends. If people are ignoring you it doesn't say too much about them.

I think even children without issues go through these friendship problems and sometimes get left out. It's harder though if a child has autism because you worry it's a sign of how things are to go for them forever.

I feel like it's a rollercoaster of emotions. Often I feel quite ok but then have times were I slip down and feel very depressed and worried and annoyed about how unfair it feels for DS to have to struggle.

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