I'm so tired of going round in circles.
Where do we go from here? Look seriously into a private assessment? Just accept that not everything has a label?
DS is 8. I have had niggles since he was 2. He is astonishingly gifted in some areas. He struggles socially. He gets rages and can be quite horrible to me, his dad and his siblings (and violent with his brother). He can be mean to other kids without even knowing that he is doing it (e.g. by calling them names - copying behaviour that he's seen when they've been joking around but then missing the nuances of this and annoying them), and then seems bemused when they get angry. He has some friends, but only a couple of close friendships (with, to my mind, accommodating children). He struggles in group situations.
He is a very anxious child.
I just feel that something is off. 2 teachers out of the 5 that he has had through school and nursery have (to an extent) agreed with me. 3 have seen nothing (diagnosable) amiss, just a sensitive boy.
To my mind (and I have now read a lot) he exhibits lots of the social and emotional behaviour that come with ASD, but he doesn't show many restrictive / repetitive behaviours - no more than a NT child would.
I really thought that we were getting somewhere this school year. His class teacher was keen on assessment. But having completed the preliminary questionnaires neither school nor we ticked enough boxes for this to be taken further (even though I feel that the difficulties he does have are significant - we just didn't qualify in the numbers game).
He's definitely a quirky child. He needs careful handling (I'm very wary about who, e.g., I might ask to pick him up from school if I git held up, or who I could ask to babysit). He doesn't seem happy (he has quite a lot of insight, and regularly says that he feels different but doesn't know how to sort it).
I had a friend round for coffee today who was commenting negatively about his behaviour at a group yesterday (which she'd been at and I hadn't), and I just feel so rubbish now. He does, sometimes, behave badly (openly stroppily) in public. No parenting techniques that I have tried have helped. But it doesn't seem that his issues are enough to qualify for professional help (maybe he doesn't have anything that would merit a diagnosis?).
I have 2 other clearly NT children though, and do see significant differences between him and then. I'm not sure that giftedness alone would account for these (the latest suggestion from school).
Where, if anywhere, do we go from here?
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