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Blossom4538 · 06/04/2017 18:56

Our lives are just becoming a constant meltdown and cycle of tantrums, defiance and being hit, kicked, stamped on, scratched etc. We've always managed the behaviour in the past but the past few weeks have been hellish.
She's massively struggling with getting ready in the morning and for bed. I just don't know what to do. We're just despairing at the moment. I feel very down and exhausted. Dd is exhausted.

We have introduced a visual timetable for the mornings which helps a little, but we'll always get to a point where DD won't continue getting ready/becomes worked up,
Aggressive and anxious.
Home life is becoming miserable.

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Blossom4538 · 06/04/2017 19:30

Have ended up smacking DD's bottom before bed, which is the last thing I should do. She's exhausted and asleep now.

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Melawati · 07/04/2017 19:53

Are you in the last week of term? All of my DC (inc NT DD2) find it increasingly hard towards the end of term. Tiredness, breaks in routine, it all adds up.
If she's on holiday this week, does she have to get ready? A few 'pyjama' days decompressing may help reduce the anxiety.

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Blossom4538 · 07/04/2017 21:04

Thank you. There have been a few things at school which have ramped up the anxiety (had a productive meeting with school). She is in hyper controlling anxiety mode! Very defiant too. Her anxiety seems so heightened and mornings and evenings are horrendous. Sensory sensitivities seem worse. Very physically aggressive towards us (worsened).
Relieved it's the holidays.
We have cancelled her swimming lesson tomorrow morning so no demands on her.
She does need to decompress and we find that most weekends at the moment.
I'm frightened of the aggression at the moment. I know it sounds pathetic but it's getting worse and she almost threw a glass bowl at my face this evening. I went into see her this morning in bed and she was playing a game hiding under covers. When I found her, she hit me and hit me again throughout the morning. Yesterday she kicked me and stamped on H's foot. She scratched H this eve when told we've ran out of yogurt!!! Nothing seems to help longterm with her physical aggression.