DS 8 ASD/features of ADHD YR4. He is medicated (lowest dose possible) to help with the symptoms of his ADHD, hyperactivity/impulsiveness/chattiness etc.
His CT has written the following in his book tonight...
Please remember that I will give you time and support BUT I also have 29 other children who need me too!
No explanation as to what this refers to but I can presume that due to his lack of impulse control when something pops into his head he needs to deal with it NOW and will not stop asking until his question query is answered. His anxiety then builds and builds the longer he is ignored. I appreciate this is easier to deal with out of school.
The "I have 29 other children" part has touched a nerve, because I hate this phrase TBH.
Be interested to know what (if anything) would you do.
I think it's factually correct. Pretty callous but we don't know the driver.
I have a similar child and frankly do have to remind that there is only one of me quite regularly. If you're child feels the teacher doesn't appreciate his difficulties this could be better than feeling misunderstood. It's all in the context really so hard to call.
I think I'd be a bit annoyed but would maybe counter with the suggestion of could he have a notepad or something to quickly jot his question down? Our DS would get annoyed, at himself as much as anything, that a question would pop straight out of his head if he had to be patient and wait. Could that help?
Lougle We've come a long way from the 5 year old that used to throw/scream/hit when anxious or frustrated. After lots of work at home he is now able to articulate any worries or anxieties and this has been hugely beneficial in reducing outbursts.
However because of his anxiety, if he can't say what he needs to say he worries that he will forget so the longer he waits the more anxious he gets... this is a work in progress.
Perhaps he's had a day where he has monopolised the teacher completely. I wouldn't be annoyed. I would be phoning to have a chat to see if the situation is getting worse - perhaps he needs a medication dosage review or work on behavioral strategies
Even if its just one or two words that could prompt that train of thought again, I've done it verbally with DS at times mid conversation with someone else. It's less of an issue now but I remember it being more so when he was around yr4.
Allthewaves sorry, crossed posts. Yes, I will be reviewing his dosage at next months clinic appointment. CT usually gives me a A4 summary beforehand.
We are working all the time at home with him, sadly because of this progress has been good, couple this with the low dose of medication and school have reduced his support. He now only has the hours that school fund and I can't see that they are doing anything to support him above what the other children receive. I asked them to quantify at last meeting... whole other thread
Me too zzzzz but he really has limited impulse control (even less when not on his meds).
An example... in the classroom he has a small table with his lego collection on, he is allowed to play with this when he has finished his work or is feeling overwhelmed. Someone had moved some of the characters on the table. When ds saw this he needed to put it right, there and then, CT told him to sit down, he didn't because he was fixated on putting the lego back in the right place. Cue meltdown! CT didn't give him the opportunity to explain why, she just went straight to telling him off and because of this had his meltdown to deal with!
jcsp the fact that CT has to meet the needs of 30 children is no excuse for my ds getting treating like a naughty child with no consideration for his many additional needs. I read her comment as frustration as ds and she wanted me to know it.
Me thinking: Shit, DS1's been all over the place, recently, he's due an appointment with CAMHS, though, has grown 3" and put on 2 stone since the last one and has been on this same dose for 2 years. School: Arrrrrrgh!!!!!!1 Me: Yep, I'm on it!