Hi everyone. My 4 year old son who I am pretty sure has high functioning autism, had been having massive meltdowns recently and I wanted to see how common it was and what to do. We are in the process of getting him diagnosed but it's literally taking years because Barnet are so rubbish. Anyway at the moment he wants to come first at everything and win at everything. If he doesn't, he has a massive meltdown which involves him trying to bite himself and anything he can see, screaming,'crying rolling on the floor. I don't let him get involved in games where there is a winner, but even if he is on his scooter and someone scoots ahead of him, he goes into meltdown mode. I mistakenly thought he would be ok for a ballet and dance class as he loves music and I didn't think we would have a problem. However 2 mins into it, the instructor chose a few kids to get up and dance. My son went crazy because he was told it wasn't his turn and he needs to sit down. He lost all control and got unbelievably angry, shouting horrible things to the other children. Saying I want to smash you all and break you so you can't dance. He's not an angry child at all, but it's like he feels that he is being treated unfairly and is genuinely hurt by whatever happens. I can see he feels confused and hurt and then he gets angry very fast. He also then goes on about what has upset him for the rest of the day. Sometimes it can go on for days where he remembers it and then gets upset again.
It's making me scared to take him to certain places. We are supposed to go to birthday party on Saturday and they are doing party games. I can take him because he will lose the plot when he doesn't win and then I have to take him home. Maybe it is just a phase? I hope so. Thanks, any advice appreciated.
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nad79 · 23/02/2017 18:07
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