Ds age 11. Dx hypermobility, anxiety, SPD. Didn't fit all criteria for asd ... still ongoing.
So, ds has issues in school, anxiety worker (who is also his care coordinator) trying to work with him to help. Phone call from her to say nothing more she can do as ds won't open up and just says he's fine, she's going to discharge him from the service. However, he masks in school and it come out when he's home. She reluctantly agreed for a different worker to see him, I was told this was his last chance, he'd have one session with the new worker, if he didn't engage with her then he'll be discharged from the service (CYPS). I can understand where she's coming from, however, I said ds has to build up a relationship/rapport with a worker to be able to open up. He also needs someone who knows how to get to the bottom of his issues ... he doesn't know why school makes him feel so stressed.
Anyway, today the new worker came. I'd asked to be informed of the day and time but I wasn't told. Ds wears coloured lens glasses to help with SPD and visual processing difficulties. I have 2 issues with the meeting -
- The worker asked him to take his glasses off as she finds them intimidating!
- She used words that made ds feel uncomfortable ... he wouldn't say them out loud but wrote them down for me. The two he remembered were crap and slag. Crap as in I'm crap at this lesson, slag as in you can slag your teacher off in here and I won't tell her/him.
I'm fuming. Not sure what to do ... who to complain to ... do I ask for ds's care coordinator as this is the only person I've had contact with or the lady herself?