Feel angry /upset for my Son 7 with ASD i need to ring later and be coherant.

[HalfShellHero]

My DS is 7yrs old with mild ASD its he does stem , gets very 'giddy' as a result has been seperated from best friend on the carpet,and seating plan, he was only moved up with one other child , which i explained last year to his teacher was a bad idea, so he's clung to his best friend and now been seperated from him, so now his friend has made another friend and are being a bit unkind to him running away when he goes to talk to him etc, his name in the cloakroom has been removed noone knows who and it has not been replaced if he is struggling to motivate himself he gets seperated from the table which ive suggested to the teacher will only compound his isolation but i think its easier for them to punish, than look what the issue is, there is another child in his class with asd who is accomodated greatly when i see the contrast between them and my DS as a parent its upsetting, i know thats unhelpful but im human. I need to ring the head today , calmly but im not sure what to say, i need to help my poor depressed little boy.

[Andro]

Reading your post, I think there are three issues:

1. Your DS is being bullied - exclusion, the cloakroom issues etc need to be tackled.
   

1. Your DS isn't receiving adequate support/reasonable adjustments - think about what would help him calm down/not build giddiness/motivate him.
   

1. Your DS is being punished for things caused by his ASD and it's making him miserable (which is hardly going to help him engage now is it?) so what steps are the school going to take to improve this situation - starting with recognizing which of his behaviours are a result of his ASD?
   

I would hypothesize that the other child with ASD presents very differently/is more obviously affected/has parents who have already had to make the kind of call you now need to make. None of which makes it any less unpleasant for you or your DS, but some people seem to forget that there are as many presentations of ASD as there are people with the condition.

I hope your call goes well.

[HalfShellHero]

Thankyou for your post Andro im not confident on the phone, i dread these kinds of calls.

[HalfShellHero]

To top it off one of the kids whos not been too nice to DS made a a rather loud point about putting party invites into drawers, ds said he had a look and couldn't see one for him kids/school is shit wish i could protect him from it..