I had a little girl called Ember. She's 7 months now which is scary! haven't been on here much as tbh struggled a bit with looking after both her and dd1 but am beginning to venture back out into the virtual world beyond baby sick.
Hi HITC, hope all is going well!
Thank Eidsvold, no I don't want any of that weird water (sounds like slang for you-know-what)! Had another definitive conversation with DH at the weekend about DD not having another sibling but the risk of ASD..... oh and me being 47 now! I said it was the last chance but we decided against. I even suggested adoption, not because I'm campaigning but just to make sure we have both really, really decided.... and we have. So good luck to all of you, I will always be here for crap advice, ha ha!
Oh Davros, DH and I have had a number of those conversations recently! But I'm 46... And DH thinks it wouldn't be fair on DS2 to have another child, natural or adopted. But I just think about DS1 and what he's missing. Still haven't quite ruled it out, secretly
Sphil, I would look more into adoption at this point but I'm not determined enough to campaign with DH or get upset about it. We did look into it years ago when my health meant that I was advised not to get pg at that time. But we decided to wait to see if I got well enough and I did.
It hit me the other day when DS1's friend came round to play. They were chasing each other round and tickling and drawing together and having such childish fun - DS1 just doesn't get enough of that.
I haven't gone into it at all though - aren't we too old to be considered for adoption in this country? I used to work with the Vietnamese and Chinese community when I was teaching in London and the idea of adopting a Chinese girl has always been at the back of my mind, way before I had the DSs. I just worry that it would be unfair on the child - our way of life isn't exactly straightforward!
We did look into it and I think there are far less restrictions like age etc than you would think. We went to the Coram Foundation which had a special scheme to adopt babies which we could have joined. So the general public will tell you that you can't get babies, you have to be a certain age etc etc and I think a lot of it is not true. Unfortunately a lot of children available for adoption in the UK have special needs or other issues. We just decided that we'd take a chance on our own "dud" rather than someone else's (please see other thread about un-PC ness before complaining!). I have also thought about adoption from abroad which can also be done, lots of people do it, but as far as I know it is more difficult, unless you are Madonna.