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I can't cope with the hyperactivity

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I know it's caused by anxiety; the change in routine, excitement about Christmas (2 birthdays before then too) and uncertainty but how do you all cope with the non-stop running about/jumping on everything, shrieking, ignoring any request to quieten down, totally unable to calm. It's like that film Groundhog Day where no matter what I do nothing changes...they just get more and more hyped up until one of them gets hurt/something gets broken/I lose my cool and send them to their rooms where they collapse into meltdown after a huge fight with me about it. I'm 30 weeks pregnant as well and also have a toddler. And I'm unwell today. I'm starting to feel completely drowned by Autism...we've tried time and time again to get some support and get fobbed off, signed off or forgotten about each time. How do you help your kids calm down?!

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 14:42:05

Trampoline, swimming, basketball hoop, slide.....you're tired and pregnant. Be kind to yourself.

Tell me how old and we will all come up with ideas where you get to sit a MN while they go bananasgrin

PolterGooseFat Tue 20-Dec-16 15:01:42

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zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 15:11:29

Ok I'm assuming quite young

Balloons (for real craziness light up ones and turn all the lights off shock). We have pipe insulation for beating them with grin

An old bit of gutter or plastic pipe. Lay it on the stairs and give them either toy cars or tennis balls to post (this ensures they climb at least eleventy billion flights of stairs)

Tap dancing on the kitchen floor (stick a couple of washers on their shoes, if using sellotape go all the way round) add marching

Sandpit inside, add corn flour and baby oil to playsand and throw theme toys in (knots of little house and cars, beach stuff..)

Washing up/hand washing at the kitchen sink

The key is everything can be done while you SIT.

Don't joke Polter - if I had the energy...

Zzzzz They are nearly 6 and just 4.

All sound wonderful ideas but I can't see any of those things calming them down, quite the opposite in fact. We've just got the trampoline out and they can't agree on whose turn it is, we have a peanut ball that they like rolling on but it's being used as a weapon and likely to break the TV. They are currently running in and out of the (supposed to be calming) tent screaming their heads off. So much repetitive speech and everything at top volume, emotional state through the roof...it's doing my head in and they don't pay attention to a single word I say. I'd have to physically carry them somewhere else to calm them down which obviously I can't do at the moment.

What makes it worse is DH is off today and he can't do a thing with them either. I feel a total failure at parenting today sad

I will try the sliding things down the stairs thing...only thing is because there's 2 of them they'll probably have one at the bottom to throw things up negating the need to keep going up and down (smart little whatnames they are) - also they are interested in (or able to focus on) activities for about 5 minutes before becoming distracted and then there's a ton of mess to clear up

I will try a story CD in a moment when they've finished raiding the fridge confused

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 15:34:43

They sound like 6 and 4 year olds. I think them being how 6 and 4 year olds are isn't an in fixation of poor parenting it's just how it is, I would stop seeing "calming down" as the aim and start creating ways they can whirl without driving you potty.

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 15:35:27

Indication not in fixation grin

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 15:36:19

What about making some parachutes to chuck from the top of the stairs. Use old plastic bags

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 15:37:19

I should probably add I had 5 under 7....it was crazy!grin

NiceGlassOfSherryAndASitDown Tue 20-Dec-16 19:19:49

I can only imagine shock I'm gonna have 4 age 6 and under and that's definitely it for me!

You're right, I'm looking at how to fix things...simply because it always, always ends in tears. But a lot is guided my conflicting sensory issues..I'm very sound sensitive and overwhelmed easily by mess or lots of movement. The being ignored triggers me because I spent much of my childhood being ignored, it makes me feel powerless. I'm an introvert so I need a certain amount of quiet; between the DC and the neighbours 18 hour karaoke parties I don't get any at all. Being pregnant and unwell has just made me feel all the more desperate.

I will definitely try out some of the ideas. I do think that a lot of their behaviour is typical for their age but it's the fact they cannot stop that concerns me. It is an external representation of the anxiety within and I feel that I should be able to help rather than let them crash or encourage them. It's all a learning curve I guess!

zzzzz Tue 20-Dec-16 19:45:25

I always feel like that when I am pregnant. It's as though everything is more. For me the key is to concentrate on food and exercise rather than sleep and behaviour. Children who eat well and stretch their limbs, laugh and succeed, sleep well, are more tolerant and have room emotionally to learn and grow. Raiseing larder numbers of children is physically tiring and it's less usual now so people don't really understand the stresses. You've given them such a gift though and it gets so very much easier.....though the taxiing is shock

Msqueen33 Thu 22-Dec-16 14:19:15

I feel you. My dh has left a ladder in the side of my four year olds room. I caught her climbing on it and on the top of a cupboard. I'm shattered. Mine are 6 and 4 and both have autism and ADHD. 7 year old is an nt diva. If your dh is home get him to take them for a run out.

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