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Does your child with AS/HFA set themselves extremely high standards?

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Blossomhill · 14/02/2007 22:09

Touch wood dd (7 with AS) has been having a fab year at school and home.
Although today she was distressed in numeracy as she got 3 out of her 25 times tables questions wrong. She gets so so upset if things are not perfect.
She then starts with the "this has ruined my perfect day" and gets very upset.
She is doing well and doesn't need to beat herself up like she does.
Is this a common thing and if so what can I do to help?
Thanks

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Dinosaur · 14/02/2007 22:10

Yes, he does (although not with handwriting, oddly enough, his writing is awful).

I dread him having homework, if I comment on it at all, I see his eyes filling up .

All we can do, I think, is to praise and encourage and really mean it, iykwim.

Be interseted to read what others think, though, as I struggle with this, really.

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jenk1 · 15/02/2007 08:51

yes DS is just like this, especially with his homework, he works fine for his tutor but when he leaves him work he gets so stressed out about it and cries and chastises himself.

The only thing we have found to work is just to continually praise him throughout and i usually try and answer a question and get it wrong on purpose cos that makes him laugh and he thinks he is cleverer than me.

He is like this in everything he does, computer games, walking down the street, he continually spins and has to do that a certain way or else gets extremely upset.

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Bugsy2 · 15/02/2007 09:21

This has always been an area of real stress for DS. He can't bear not being good at things. He gets really stressed when he reads words wrongly, does a sum wrongly. He will often throw a massive wobbler & then refuse to try again. I find re-engaging him on an activity after one of these episodes very tricky. Homework can be an exhausting process for both of us!
Obviously, I am only starting to tie all these things in with his Aspergers.

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