Do lots of people on the spectrum find demands stressful or is this really something which sets PDA apart

[Corrimony]

Isn't it very common for autists to find demands placed upon them stressful?

Do those that manage to cope with demands still find the demands stressful but find ways of coping with the stress - or, do some really enjoy routines and order imposed on them by authority (perhaps finding the structure reassuring and calming)?

I have long since come to terms with my DS's ASC diagnosis but I'm not sure I'm comfortable with the PDA label people around him are increasingly using - even though some of the strategies are great. Just trying to figure it out in relation to other ASCs.

I'd be so interested to hear your thoughts!

[Manumission]

"Autist"?

[Manumission]

Oh crikey do you think? I can't say I'm keen. Not at all. It smacks of person = condition to me.

[Yoarchie]

A flautist is a person who plays the flute.
An autist is a person with autism.

I think it's pretty good actually.

[Manumission]

Im not even keen on "autistic person" TBH. But autist sounds archaic. Sorry.

[Manumission]

Oh come on polter. I just said I don't like that word.

[Manumission]

Well I have a foot in both camps then and I still hate it.

[Manumission]

And then you saw the light?

It just sounds like fighting talk to me. Something to use if you need an authentic black eye in a hurry.

[Manumission]

Maybe it sounds like it belongs with 'spastic' because of the Ian Dury song?

I still can't bring myself to answer the question because it would feel treacherous to describe -or think of - anyone I know as 'an autist' but yes, let's stop the derail.

[Manumission]

Tsk. No the other way around. I'd only use a word like that to provoke someone into punching me.

If for some weird reason, I wanted someone to hit me. It was an ironical point.