Hi, this is complicated so sorry in advance.
DS is 12, he has HFA. He has a statement, 20 hrs a week. He's a very anxious boy, severe anxiety. He will cower in fear. He's not violent at all. Up until year 5 he was in a really high achieving school. He's bright but the school really only wanted his funding.he was bullied and school did nothing. It was his fault, always.
We moved about 18 months ago with DH's job. We moved to a rural area in catchment for a small secondary school with a good pastoral record. DS went to a small primary school for year 6 which he loved. He really came out of his shell and had fab teachers. It was an oasis for him.
So now he's started secondary school. It's been difficult. I knew it would be. He's been bullied already, kids videoing him, trying to make him look stupid and then posting it online, amongst other things. I reported it and went to see the Head. He dealt with it straight away. I think it's stopped but I'm not sure as DS bottles things up, he always has done.
I emailed his keyworker a few times over various things. Her last response was to tell me to butt out. Needless to say, I was highly offended by this and as a result we have no dialogue at all. I know nothing of what is going on on school. I've now noticed that DS has several bite marks on his arms. These are self inflicted, he has admitted this. I don't know why he has done this and neither does he.
I'm worried about him but it's nothing I can put my finger on. I can't speak to the keyworker after what she said and I want him to be independent. Also I know this is secondary school, it's a whole new ball game now. I'm not sure how much input I should have with school. I don't want to be an over anxious parent. But he IS vulnerable.
I don't really know what I'm asking tbh. My mum died years ago so as DH works long hours I cope alone. I have no support so I'm seeking the wisdom of mumsnet
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