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Just one good parents evening please :(

(6 Posts)
crazybat Tue 18-Oct-16 18:30:17

That's it really.

I'm sick of seeing perfect Peter's parents had yet another fucking perfect parents evening.

He's probably going to be prime minister by the time he's 12 bla bla bla so proud so blessed bla bla bla.

Compared to.

We don't know what's wrong with your child. He's draining us. 90 percent of our teaching time is used to deal with your child's behaviour issues.

Yes I'm bitter. Sorry if I've offended anyone but I am just as good as parent but feel like a failure.

His teacher is lovely and manages him brilliantly and of course there were some positives and I don't want to hear lies, we are 100 percent in agreement about him which is quite reassuring that it's not just me. However it would be lovely to walk in just once and say. Wow. No issues. Keep up the good work he's great.

Thanks for reading my pity post. I'll get over it by the morning x

zzzzz Tue 18-Oct-16 18:49:20

I think you should tell them. Be open and non-critical but tell them a little bit more of you gets bruised at every meeting and you need to hear some good as well as all the important information sharing. Be honest, you could just cut and paste your OP, because there IS good. I bet you could tell me 10 or 20 or a 100 good things about your little one, but sometimes people forget in among the challenges and struggle.

Hang in there.

brew

crazybat Tue 18-Oct-16 19:08:49

I have roughly 2-5 meetings every 6 weeks regarding my son and his complex issues we are getting fab support.

They always tell me what a kind lovely boy he is, they all have a soft spot for him and he's just adorable. And due to the meetings we are well involved and very open with his behaviour we have a good teacher/senco/ mum relationship going on.

It's just when its parents evening night. My whole news feed is filled with parents beaming of pride. And I'm just sat here feeling quite jealous that they don't realise the struggles it could be like.

I have no doubt that my son is better at some things than theirs, but my eldest child had educational needs no behavioural so this has been going on for 10 school years for me over all.

(I was a perfect Peter child which I don't think helps blushconfused)

cansu Tue 18-Oct-16 19:56:14

I know how you feel. Whilst my dd was in mainstream I decided in the end to not attend the normal five minute parents evening but to instead make an appointment for a longer discussion of the positive and negative. This meant I didn't have to deal with the whole other parents issue. It can be v depressing. I am a teacher myself so I always make sure I don't spend ages going over the stuff the children have no control of really or I focus on the progress they have made, rather than what they can't do.

FelicityRivers Tue 18-Oct-16 20:03:26

Speaking as a teacher, it isn't the Perfect Peters who hold a special place in your heart for years after you've taught them.

Msqueen33 Wed 19-Oct-16 12:46:26

I've had a few which have made me feel like utter shit. Reception was our worst year and I was told by dd's teacher that she didn't attend assembly as "she makes a spectacle of herself". Dd has autism and adhd. We've got ours tonight and I'm not sure. Teacher is very nice and laid back. I deal mostly with my dd's 1:1s. Don't let the bastard school grind you down.

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